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Intesting Poll from Politics Board- Who Pays...
I saw this over on the Politics board and thought it was an interesting poll.
When you go out to eat with your parents (or in laws)- who pays?
Re: Intesting Poll from Politics Board- Who Pays...
With my parents, they pay. Even if we try to pay they won't let us.
With the ILs, we pay. They don't even offer. But they're special.
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We've only gone out to eat with DH's mom once and we know she can't pay so we offered. She's on a limited income so we don't mind, but she acted weird about it and didn't order any food. Pride maybe?
With my parents we rarely go out to eat, usually someone makes a big meal at home, but who pays varies. My mom tries to pay as much as she can, but we always offer to pay.
Basically, both of our parents are more broke or doing just about as well as we are, so we pay whenever we can.
We pay with DH's mom. With his dad and SM, either they pay or we split the bill.
My Dad/parents always pay. I've never even offered, mostly because I know it's pointless and actually considered a bit of an insult within my family. With the x-in-laws and the FILs we've always split. The first time this ever happened it really caught me off guard and I wasn't prepared for it. So I've always wondered if the parents paying thing is maybe a midwestern tradition? There's a whole chapter on this in "How to Speak Minnesotan" but I always thought they were exaggerating.
I think when my parents retire is when we will take over paying. That's what my parents did with my Grandma.
Dining with my Dad = he pays & we learned gets pissed if we try.
Dining with my Mom = we go dutch
Dining with MIL = she usually sneaks and pays or we go dutch (depends if DH & I are the only ones dining with her or not).
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We've offered but my parents always pay or my aunt/uncle, whomever we are with. We've never gone out with DH's parents. But I would imagine if we did they would pay. I can't even imagine it being any other way, except maybe with my parents now that they are both retired.
I had an ex... his family always went out for Easter brunch... so somehow I ended up finding the place and making the reservation and was HORRIFIED when we had to chip in because I was told it was too expensive. Hello?!?! You told me to pick the place, they were all the same price. Ugh... i don't miss him or his family.
The parents always pay. In our families both of our dads are very proud & have big egos, so they are not into letting other people pay - ever. It's just how it is. It is becoming kinda ridiculous seeing as Ted & his brother are both married, and his brother has kids. We're all legit grown-ups & I personally am starting to feel uncomfortable with the fact we eat with them a lot & they always pay.
I would imagine/hope that once our parents are retired they will be more willing to let us pay or at least split the bill. Who knows, though.
With my family, we usually only go out to eat for birthdays. If it's just getting together for a dinner, we cook at one of our houses. So, for birthdays, it really depends on whose birthday it is, and how big the group is if we all split it or not.
With my IL's, we usually take turns paying. If they pay for a meal, we pick up the next one.