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how to convince MH it is time for the daycare waitlist

jgreg29jgreg29
in Maine Nesties

Did any of you have to sign up for daycare waitlists before you were super actively discussing TTC?  I'm in that boat right now.  The daycare at work is known to be very good, is super convenient and is $500-800 a month less than what we would pay for comporable care elsewhere.  The waitlist is always long but apparently it's backlogged even more.  It's taking people 2.5-3 years to get off the list.  Our little-talked about plan is to start TTC winter of 2012 and I would take a six month maternity leave. This means the earliest we will need daycare is spring 2013 - under 2.5 years away. 

I think it's time for us to sign up for the waitlist but I'm worried MH will panic a bit that I want to move things up while he's still in school and will have a hard time understanding why we should do this.  I figure I have the convenience, monitoring, and cost savings arguments handy but what else can I say to convince him?  Anyone else been in this situation?

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Re: how to convince MH it is time for the daycare waitlist

  • tripintripin

    This may sound terrible, but I would just do it. I'd sign us up and not even tell DH. Then when the time comes and he panics you can say, already done ;) But that is just me.

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  • SBTibbsSBTibbs
    imagetripin:

    This may sound terrible, but I would just do it. I'd sign us up and not even tell DH. Then when the time comes and he panics you can say, already done ;) But that is just me.

    I was going to say this too!

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  • jgreg29jgreg29
    imageSBTibbs:
    imagetripin:

    This may sound terrible, but I would just do it. I'd sign us up and not even tell DH. Then when the time comes and he panics you can say, already done ;) But that is just me.

    I was going to say this too!

    I have thought about it!  MH's a procrastinator and I am not.  I'd like to have his agreement in this but I'm worried he just won't take it seriously!

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  • Tamzin418Tamzin418
    It does seem unfathomable to sign up for daycare now when you're not even trying to conceive yet. It's crazy that such a thing would be necessary, but it's reality. I think you're right to try talking to him. If you can acknowledge how crazy it sounds to have to do this so early maybe it'll help. If not...sign up anyway and he'll thank you later.
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  • MA&CBMA&CB member
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    I agree, in your situation it definitely sounds like a good idea to get on the waitlist.  But if that's going to stress hubby out, I'd go ahead and just do it and talk about it later.  It's not like there's any committment or deposit at this point, right?  So if 2.5 years, you don't have a baby, it's no harm, no foul.  And it'll be one less thing to worry about then.  Honestly though, if he's a pretty reasonable and logical person, I think it'd be hard to argue with what you outlined to us.
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  • kcloutskclouts

    imageMA&CB:
    I agree, in your situation it definitely sounds like a good idea to get on the waitlist.  But if that's going to stress hubby out, I'd go ahead and just do it and talk about it later.  It's not like there's any committment or deposit at this point, right?  So if 2.5 years, you don't have a baby, it's no harm, no foul.  And it'll be one less thing to worry about then.  Honestly though, if he's a pretty reasonable and logical person, I think it'd be hard to argue with what you outlined to us.

    This!

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  • maeghan21maeghan21 member
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    imagekclouts:

    imageMA&CB:
    I agree, in your situation it definitely sounds like a good idea to get on the waitlist.  But if that's going to stress hubby out, I'd go ahead and just do it and talk about it later.  It's not like there's any committment or deposit at this point, right?  So if 2.5 years, you don't have a baby, it's no harm, no foul.  And it'll be one less thing to worry about then.  Honestly though, if he's a pretty reasonable and logical person, I think it'd be hard to argue with what you outlined to us.

    This!

    Ditto! Unless you are going to loss a hefty deposit I'd just go ahead and sign up. 

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  • kristen80kristen80
    I would just do it - it doesn't cost anything and if you're not ready when your name comes up, it's no biggie.
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  • cdg0819cdg0819
    This exactly! We already have to think about pre-k waitlists and Felix is just 3 months old!
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