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Update and a vent
Thank you all for all the kind words and thoughts for us.
I just wanted to let you all know that we have an appointment at UW on Tuesday to have the more in depth ultrasound done. We first do the ultrasound, then we meet with the genetic counselor and then finally with the high risk OB. I will keep you posted with the progress once we know more.
I'm also terribly frustrated with my and DH parents right now. We had dinner with my mom and grandma Monday night and were talking about everything. They both started in on what the possibility that other children would have the same issue if its there and if it is maybe we should consider not having anymore children. I know that is something to look at but even since another child could have it doesn't make me want to stop at 1. We will just be more prepared if they do.
Then tonight DH was talking to his mom about what my parents said she was kinda mad that they would say that. She then started going off on how maybe we needed to start going to church. She evidently made it sound like that if we had been going to church this entire time this wouldn't have happened. Its almost as if she thinks its a mutation and a sign of a godless household.
No matter what we are going to love this baby and any other child that could possibly have this. I don't see this as being an issue of whether we can handle doing it multiple times all I see is it bringing our small family closer and love each other more. Thanks for letting me vent.
Re: Update and a vent
Baby #2: Surprise BFP 9.19.12, EDD 5.24.13, natural m/c 10.19.13 at 9w
I think it's natural for people to want to talk to their parents if their ILs give them a shock. It can be hard to see how that pits people against each other. And I think stephkay is right, they probably weren't trying to deliberately hurt you. It sounds like they were thinking outloud about a situation you're all powerless in and trying to think of a way to regain some control. That's also a natural reaction.
Doesn't mean it's the right one, but I think it's the typical one.
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I'm with the others. I'm sorry you're having to go through this. I think you guys have your heads on straight and at approaching this from the completely right direction.
Also, I'm loving the name Edmund. So very Count of Monte Cristo.
We'll just not tell H about this little fact, m'kay?
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I think it's normal to talk about it. Your both nervous and worried. I would just ignore the negative comments and if your talking again and they bring it up. Interrupt them and say I don't need to hear that right now.
I like Edmund too. It makes me think of the Count of Monte Cristo, and the Narnia books. It's a cool name.