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I'm bitter today

Today, I called my doctor to make my infertility appointment for January 3.

Today, yet another pregnancy announcement on FB.  I should mention this is her 3rd child.  She tried 1 month with the first two.  The 2nd one was born 4 months ago.  So, all 3 of her kids will be under 3 years old.  While I don't necessarily envy that, I envy that she can think about getting pregnant and does.

Life just sucks sometimes.  I know you ladies don't understand but I had to vent.....Christmas is just hard when you thought you'd be announcing awesome news and all you are really doing is feeling sorry for yourself.

Pity party for 1, please.

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PCOS and Endo

Ovarian drilling and endo removed 1/3/12
BFP - 3/27/12
Beta's 11, 14, 57, 637, 2800
Sono showed no baby and teeny tiny sac. Waiting to M/C naturally.

Re: I'm bitter today

  • I say be bitter.  I don't think its a bad thing, its not like you are wanting anything unhealthy - you want a family - I don't consider that to be a bad thing.
  • imagethe domesticated newlywed:
    I say be bitter.  I don't think its a bad thing, its not like you are wanting anything unhealthy - you want a family - I don't consider that to be a bad thing.

    I totally agree. 

    No shame in being bitter in the company of people that care. 

    I'm sorry you're going through this. 

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  • imageFive_letter:

    imagethe domesticated newlywed:
    I say be bitter.  I don't think its a bad thing, its not like you are wanting anything unhealthy - you want a family - I don't consider that to be a bad thing.

    I totally agree. 

    No shame in being bitter in the company of people that care. 

    I'm sorry you're going through this. 

    ITA with this also. There is no reason to hide your emotions; they're yours, they're real, and you need to get it out.

    ((((hugs)))) 

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  • It's ok to be bitter and I totally understand where you are coming from. And I know how you feel.

    {{hugs}}

  • imagethe domesticated newlywed:
    I say be bitter.  I don't think its a bad thing, its not like you are wanting anything unhealthy - you want a family - I don't consider that to be a bad thing.

    This was said perfectly.  

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  • It's ok to wallow in self pity every now and then. I always feel better after, even though wallowing did nothing to change my situation.

    ::hugs::

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    imagethe domesticated newlywed:
    I say be bitter.  I don't think its a bad thing, its not like you are wanting anything unhealthy - you want a family - I don't consider that to be a bad thing.

    This was said perfectly.  

     ITA. I love you girl! Say what you need to!

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    imagealyssa44:

    imagethe domesticated newlywed:
    I say be bitter.  I don't think its a bad thing, its not like you are wanting anything unhealthy - you want a family - I don't consider that to be a bad thing.

    This was said perfectly.  

     ITA. I love you girl! Say what you need to!



    THIS! I could not have to say it better.
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  • Definitely vent, feel bitter, whatever you need.

    I took the easy way out; I don't want kids.  But I really feel for you & Bonnie, wonderful people who'll make great moms once you're able to be moms, however, it happens.  It drives me crazy that people like you, who want it so badly, have so much trouble with it.  I wish I could take the problems from you; it's people like me who should have trouble having kids, not people like you.

    Hell, I feel for J too, with her worries today.

    There's so much stress and heartache involved... while for other people it looks so easy and effortless.  Of course you need to vent.  Totally understandable.

  • You are totally justified in your bitterness.  We are here for you to vent.
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  • Yup. I agree with everyone else. Vent away girl - we're here for ya. *hugs*
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  • Vent away girl!  I know it's hard when it seems it's in your face everywhere.  *Hugs!!*
  • imagejanda309:

    Life just sucks sometimes.  I know you ladies don't understand but I had to vent.....Christmas is just hard when you thought you'd be announcing awesome news and all you are really doing is feeling sorry for yourself.

    Pity party for 1, please.

     Joing you in your pity party.  If you wrote this yesterday, for about an hour after I got home I cried all over/complained at/whined at DH's shoulder.  I feel like we're in a holding pattern.  The chance of us getting pregnant is getting lower and lower each month (at least that's what I think) and we have to wait up to 6 months for this OBGYN appointment to actually find out what's happening.  Anyway, the only thing that cheered me up is he said I can get a ....  book from the library.  (I'm avoiding the word...).  I want to think and know about options before we go.

    You're good that you can use that word.  Anyway, I think, I postjacked your post.  Sorry.

    Hope that your appoinment in January and the resulting drugs result in not too many symptoms and at the end a BFP.

    On a similar note, any totally non kids plans for you?  I was thinking about this yesterday...  That we (DH and I) should go out and spend some money on something totally frivolous that has nothing to do with the future.

    Anyway, that was long...

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  • I meant to post on this earlier and got side tracked. But I totally think it's ok to be bitter and mad about this situation. Everyone says you have to be a big girl and just learn to deal with things, and that life is not fair sometimes. I say that that is stupid and it sucks. Why can't life just be fair every once in awhile, you know?

    But here's also what I think: it's going to happen for you. It may be a difficult road, but it'll happen and you will be an awesome mom. So have your pity party for a little while, and then start thinking positive thoughts. In January :o)

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