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I am officially....
still confused.
The doctor's office called today and my beta level was 18. So, it was positive for pregnancy, but she said that the level was so low that she's not sure it will stay positive. She said it's either that they caught it really, really early- or I'm likely having an early miscarriage.
I don't know what to think. I don't know whether to be hopeful that it was just early even though it wasn't planned, but I don't want it to be a miscarriage. I'm having my blood tested again on Tuesday, so I'll know on Wednesday for sure. If it's a regularly progressing pregnancy then the beta number should be in the low 1,000s, but if it's still that low then I've miscarried.
Here's the thing: If I'm pregnant, I'll freak out and be nervous. If I'm miscarrying, I'll freak out and cry and be really, really upset.
So now I have to wait until next week to find out which one of the freak outs I'll be having.
Meanwhile, my friends all want to go out on Friday night for a girls dance night to celebrate one of them graduating grad school, the other getting a new job, yadda yadda... and I don't know what to do. I don't really feel like going out, but it might take my mind off it. But I won't be able to drink (not chancing it) and they will notice... bleh.
Re: I am officially....
Wow... so much for getting some kind of closure, eh?
I'm sorry that everything is still up in the air. That really sucks and it can't feel great to not know what to do. If you don't feel like going out then I say don't. Yeah it might take your mind off of things but you might just be in a blah mood.
In the meantime... we have a new board... a private one.
Check your PMs.
Oh mannnn. This whole thing just stinks. Remind me again why you thought of even doing the pregnancy test?? I remember you saying that you aren't even late for your flow yet, so what made you originally start to get worried?
Thinking of you guys! It's all going to be okay - either way! Luckily you have a super sweet husband by your side.
As for Friday night, I guess you just have a choice to make. Do you feel like explaining this whole deal to your friends? If so, I'd explain it beforehand, go out, and have a good time. If not, make up some excuse and stay on the couch & watch a movie!
Oh wow...how frustrating and confusing. I'm so sorry you still don't have an answer.
If you do go out you can do what one of my bridesmaids did at my bachelorette party. She had just found out she was pregnant and she faked drinking all night without anyone knowing. At dinner she got up to go to the restroom, but really told our server to bring her just tonic water and at the bar she would order shots that were red and have the bartender give her a shot of grenadine.
Sneaky McSneakerson!
Yep! She told me the day after the wedding that she was pregnant and I was all confused and mad at her at first because I thought she got drunk that night. Then she told me she was faking it.
I've thought about doing that! Just telling the bartender to bring me a coke instead of a rum and coke.
But... can I even have coke? Am I not suppose to drink soda?
I'm sorry you don't have any for sure answers. If you are having a miscarriage and need to talk please let me know - I had one in early July so the feelings and emotions are pretty fresh. When I got pregnant again they had to test my HCG levels every other day to see if they were going up or down, the wait is difficult and it's hard not to obsess. The whole thing (either way) is scary and it's hard to not know and to not worry is impossible.
Please keep us updated and again, let me know if you need to talk.
Good luck and sending you a hug...
I'm so sorry you didn't get more definitive answers....how frustrating to have to keep waiting!
And you can have a Coke - the limit for caffeine, in the information from my doctor, is no more than 300 mg per day.