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OMG Please stop inviting us to Christmas Eve Service!
So last week BIL asked DH if we wanted to come with them to Christmas Eve service at their church. DH said no thank you. This is not the first time BIL has tried to get DH to come to their church. They go to a new wave, non-denominational church.
Now SIL just sent me a BBM asking about our Christmas Eve plans. Look, seriously, we're not coming to church with you, no matter how underhandedly you're going to ask.
Look I realize that for a lot of people faith/religion are important. I have no problem with that. One my closest friends and sorority sister was a children's minister at a huge church here.
But DH and I currently have our own views on God and at this time they don't include attending church. Further, as I've explained to DH, I'm not ready to just forget that I'm Jewish and to me being Jewish is much more of a cultural thing AND a religion thing.
GRRRRRRRR! I'm just not used to how much people wear their religion on their sleeve around here. I've never experienced this before.
Re: OMG Please stop inviting us to Christmas Eve Service!
We have a similar conflict in DH's family.
MIL is catholic, and goes to church twice a week, at least, and is very involved with her church.
SIL (who lives about a half hour from her) is episcopalian, and since niece an nephew are 10 and 12, they're in their "church going years". SIL is also a teacher in the Sunday school or something like that.
Every year, Christmas Eve, SIL hosts an afternoon of tree-decorating (which is a whole other story), apps, and then dinner after the evening CHristmas Eve service (the one geared more towards kids, usually at 6 or something). MIL will come to the afternoon, and then go to a catholic church up the street that has a service at a similar time. The years that DH and I are in town, we go with her. (D and I both grew up catholic, but we're not religious now).
So, eeeeeeevery year, SIL makes a big stink about "I don't know why mom won't give up catholic church for just one day and go to the Episcopalian church with the rest of the family!" If anything, MIL, who can be challenging on just about every topic, is pretty good here, in my book. She doesn't make a stink about not being able to go to her OWN church, makes due with another catholic church, and doesn't complain at all about any of it. (she *is* a complainer, so this is a big deal). She just wants to be able to do her own religious activity of her choice. It's not like her grandkids are in the pageant or anything like that.
It drives me crazy that my SIL just doesn't let her do her own thing and that this is a discussion point EVERY year. Just let her go to the church she wants to go to!
Sorry. Rant over.
I cannot stand faith/religion/church pushers. That is a very personal decision. I am Catholic but would never in a million years think of trying to push someone into going to my church or participate in my religious traditions especially around the Holidays. If someone is interested great I'll tak about it but that is it.
It really can mess up what could be an otherwise nice get together.
We're not asked or forced by anyone to go to a service for Christmas. We would probably avoid the family if we were.