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i cant keep up- vent.
my house is a farking mess. i clean it every. single.day. withinr 5 minutes it is like a tornado went through it. dont even get me started on the laundry. i am sick and tired of living out of laundry baskets. i have no time to hang up ity bity clothes and put then in closets or stuff them in drawers. mila will try to help me, but really its just to keep her busy because i have to do what she did again. which brings me to activites with the girls... they want to play,but with all messy things that i really dont feel like picking up after- i just dont have the energy - painting, play doh, cutting... why cant they build with blocks for seven hours!?! is that asking too much? also, the girls have started this fake cry / skreetchy scream thing that drives me wild. oh and dh wanders in and out and looks at me like i am nuts for getting aggrivated. buddy why dont you pick up your socks at least? oh and maybe try to get home one night a year before dinner, bath, and bedtime. thank god i get some help from my parents, but thats a cach 22 because if they dont do something the way i want it done i have to bite my tounge because i really need their help and i look like the as$ not appreciating them. .... christmas gifts not wrapped, cards not mailed out, appointments at the shoppe dragging the girls 45 min away in both directions... and these are just small problems! ugh sometimes i wish things were a little more normal. a little more balanced. typically i would wirte all of this out and then press delete and get on with my day. not today, i will delete, but not until later. phew . i hope everyone else is having a sane day!
mila belle 3.26.07 and isla leighton 5.12.09
mila belle aka mimi and belle and miss isla aka ileigh : )
mila belle aka mimi and belle and miss isla aka ileigh : )
Re: i cant keep up- vent.
Hang in there Erica! I am with you on the mess of a house. I look at it as this...my house is a lived in house...not a museum. I think this time of year with the holidays and all that goes along with it just adds so much more pressure.
Just make a little time for yourself to take a hot bath and drink some tea. You need it to stay healthy & sane. Your kids know you love them and that is what is most important!
Hugs!
Can you maybe get a "helper" or housekeeper every other wk or at least once a month to do the deep cleaning so you don't have to?
Also, I am going to send you an email about what we talked about at dinner (if you remember!).
oh, erica! i am so, so sorry! sounds absolutely insane and i can't even imagine your situation. i don't really have any advice, but maybe one idea?
we try really, really hard to limit the amount of toys we have out at any given time. ideally, it's ten. and when i say ten, blocks count as one and the dollhouse counts as one, etc. that way every item has it's place, it's super easy and fast to clean up, and cassidy genuinely plays with each item verses cruising from toy to toy and ripping everything off the shelves. we also have her toys in designated baskets and bins for fast clean up. granted, you'll have to take an afternoon to weed through everything, but i think it's totally worth it. i basically have two huge tupperware storage bins from target for the rotation in and out. one is filled with stuff that's "new" and just not yet age appropriate. and the second is for good, quality toys that she has outgrown and would be good for the next kid. the rest gets donated or if it's broken, thrown away. so far it has been working really, really well. it also saves us a ton of money because it seems like there's always something new for us to put into the rotation. just a thought...
have you talked to DH? is there anything he can do about his schedule? i'm guessing he can't. that just sucks, i feel for you lady!
HUGS
It sucks. I totally hear ya.
"It's not a sprint, it's a marathon." - Alex & Ani bracelet
My blog: Dodging Acorns
I could've written this post exactly! In fact, I think I have!!! It's SO DAMN HARD. It really is. I just freaked out because Wes is now coming home early and the house is totally torn up because I'm trying to organize and have to go through everything. I finally put the mountain of laundry away in the girl's room and there's three more to wash downstairs. It's never ending. I feel guilty because I want to do fun things w/ the girls instead of constantly working to keep this place in shape and then I play w/ the girls and leave the house a wreck and I feel bad that it looks like crap. Wes hasn't been home for bedtime in ages. Thank god my sister was just here for a week but now that she's gone I can barely manage again.
There are a few things I'm trying to realize. We can't do everything. We just can't. The girls will survive, the house will still be standing, everyone will get fed and bathed and put to bed and it's all ok. The crockpot lady has some tips that I've been trying to do everyday to keep me sane. No dishes in the sink; always right to the dishwasher, make the bed right when you get up, try to do a load of laundry from start to finish and put it away everyday. Eventually it should all catch up. I mean this is a CRAZY time of year. It'll calm down in a few weeks. I'm actually really happy Em is out of school for two weeks. I think staying home will be a welcome treat. You're not alone!! HUGS!
You're not alone, Erica! I agree with the ladies, it's very hard to keep up and like Nikki said - it's a house and meant to be lived in, not a museum. If you can afford one, a cleaning service would help alleviate a lot of stress. We plan on hiring one when I go back to work!
glad to know i am not alone! i think with my house for sale and having showings, my house needs to look good on most days and its just so hard. both of my girls are like my little shadows. very rarely will they go off and play by themselves. they just arent used to that, so they want me close at all times!
the toy situation blows. in every room they have a few things so that they can be occupied while i clean or shower or type emails. its super easy for every room to look like sh!t really fast. i actually cant wait for christmas so that i can put out new, more appropriate toys and put away some of the old toys that have been around for ages.
i have a problem with getting baby toys. i have a storage room full of them. then there are the isla toys mixed with the mila toys and its a disaster.
i really am going to put away lots of toys to get ready for the new ones. anyway, i am thinking about a cleaning person 2x a month... i need a live - in maid service... and a cook... maybe a nanny?lol!
a friend of mine runs this company: http://www.newenglandnannies.org/
i know they can tailor to your every need as far as hours, responsibilities, etc. when she herself hired a nanny they were also responsible for laundry, cleaning, and meal preparing.
may be worth a call just to feel it out! tell her amy or "aj" sent you!
Ok so first of all when the heck did you put your house on the market??? This is complete news to me. Where are you guys looking to move? Closer to
Grafton I hope
Anyway, I feel the same way. I just got the copy of Money from Alicia and now I need to spend some time to figure out how to use it so I can see if we have enough money in the budget for a cleaning service. I work full time and I really hate that my free time is spent cleaning the house or worrying about needing to clean. I would rather eliminate going out to eat so we can have the money for a service.
Purge toys. Plain and simple. Donate a bunch that the girls really don't play with.
Where the hell are you moving too!!!!!
Erica, I totally hear you on this! My house is always a mess and the laundry never ends. The screach thing must be a phase because we are also going through the same thing...Raegan has no volume control on her and is is just into everything.
Hugs girl....we need to get out and have a drink
i'm home all day with one kid (who isn't even mobile) and i can't keep up. you are not alone!
and i soooo understand the dh thing. same thing here!
Ditto Erica!!!
I can't get out of my own way....3 boys is A LOT, nevermind the house, DH, e store, the rental that is still VACANT, my grandmother having open heart surgery, the holidays, me having the boys wih me at the store 2 days a week ransacking it, and my NOT SLEEPING I feel as if any moment I could crumble like a cracker!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!