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So po'd right now...
My husband has been out of work for some time now. We had a joint account set up just for our bills...he puts in so much of his unemployment, I put in the rest. After paying the bills, whatevers left over in our checks is ours to do as we please with. He has his money, I have mine.
In October...he stopped putting money in the account. When it came time to pay the bills...I was like "What's up!" Oh sorry...he "forgot." And by then he had already spent his money...so I covered the bills.
Come Thanksgiving...he says how his unemployment was ending that week. WTF! Notice would have been nice. I had to take almost $700.00 out of my savings that was set aside for Christmas, and both my daughter and sons birthdays, and put in the bank to cover what he wouldn't be able to until the end of the year.
He just says to me today...I'm running to the grocery, do you need anything? I simply asked if he had enough money to go.
Get this: His UC hadn't ended. He just failed to tell me that. He's been getting paid every flipping week. Plus he has been helping my mom get around to all her therapies and she's been giving him money for that too! But he has not put one dime into the bills account for 9 weeks.
I will admit that finances have been on ongoing issue for us. We are already in marital counseling. And, yes, like a 12-year old...I'm so telling on him this week to the counselor!
Re: So po'd right now...
You aren't acting like a 12 yr. old at all. That is unacceptable in my book. Hiding and lying about money are not cool, even if he were to give some excuse like saving up to get you a Christmas gift.
I'm glad you're getting counseling and am sorry you're going through this. Times around the holidays are tough enough without added stress.