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The kid. walked. in.
DD walked in last night. It wasn't pretty. It was that raunchy, sweaty, daddy-might-be-turning-mommy-into-a-pretzel scenarios. I just said, go back to your room, I will come in a few minutes. She walked back to her room and seemed to doze off quickly. (Before I even made it in.) She made no mention of it this morning, so I don't know if she was just sleepy and didn't see anything in the dark, or if she will have a latent memory.
~Afraid to pick her up from school today~
Oh, and yes we locked the door. We didn't realize until this morning that she had a sticker on some part of it that prevented the lock from securing.
Re: The kid. walked. in.
lol. How old is she?
She won't be traumatized by this. Trust.
It's probably more traumatizing for you!
heh. too funny.
i have no real advice. but likely..she'll be just fine and it won't be until she is way, way older that she realizes what she *might* have seen, depending on how old she is.
Tea Time for Lulu
She is 7. DH thinks she was just half asleep and wandered in.
DH said the DS (the teen) said on way to school this morning, "Tape moms mouth closed if you two are gonna be gross. It's right next to my room. Why can't you two hate each other like everyone else's parents?"
I think I feel worse now. No, not really. Eh.
She is 7. DH thinks she was just half asleep and wandered in.
DH said the DS (the teen) said on way to school this morning, "Tape moms mouth closed if you two are gonna be gross. It's right next to my room. Why can't you two hate each other like everyone else's parents?"
I think I feel worse now. No, not really. heh.
Yeah...and with that, it wouldn't be the 7 year old i'd be concerned about.
No, switching around bedrooms is not possible.
DD has not mentioned a thing, so I think she was half asleep. She is more concerned with getting her first B.
That is pretty disturbing that DS said that. If I knew that my DS or DD might hear us I would make it a point to be quiet. That is just wrong and trashy to have a child hear you guys. Sorry
First and foremost, do not say 'sorry' as if you are meaning to apologize for calling me trashy, all the while calling me trashy. Your apology is neither acceptable nor accepted.
Second, it is disturbing, and of course I will make it a point to be quiet. This happened twelve hours ago, not twelve months ago.
Third, I was disturbed more by the fact my daughter had walked in, because she is so young and it would be a terribly difficult conversation to have with her. I am not as worried with DS because it is a subject we have already broached.
Fourth, I have obviously missed the memo where you weren't allowed to have a sense of humor about raising children. I find the best part of his comment that all the other parents HATE EACH OTHER.
And finally, it is likely he wouldn't have heard a thing if he hadn't been awake in the middle of the night trying to find his mp3 player to listen to music when he should have been sleeping. Had he not slammed a closet door my daughter may not have woken at all, and the door would have remained closed, and my private moment would have remained private.
P.S. Words matter. Choose them wisely.
bookmaven: more power to ya sister.... trashy? really? i think the fact that you're worried about this to begin with doesn't make you trashy ..it's not like you were doing it in the middle of the day while kids were at the dinner table..sheesh!
stuff happens... later you'll find it amusing/still mortifying
Ha, am I the only one who thinks this is funny?? I don't understand the scandalized, trashy comments. Since when is having a healthy sex life trashy? I'm sure it's not like you guys were doing it in the middle of the afternoon while your son was trying to do his homework. Props to your son for being comfortable enough to bring it up.
i'm sure that any teen would be disgusted at the thought of their parents having sex, especially hearing it. but it certainly isn't the worst thing ever. and when he is older he will be able to appreciate the fact that he was raised by parents who do love each other and have a healthy marriage/sex life/romantic life. you should be proud of yourselves for not falling in to the category of parents that hate each other! that's seriously a great thing!
as for the trashy comment...it just doesn't make any sense. if it were a case of a parent bringing a different partner in every night for their own enjoyment and disregarding the fact that there are children in the home, then i could understand it. but since that isn't the case, then i figure it can only come from the lips of a prude.
This whole post made me laugh. Especially your DS comment! I'm sure it's incredibly more awkward for you guys than your children.
In the long run, it's probably healthy that your DS knows you two still have a loving relationship. He might think back (in horror of course!) to this incident when he's married with kids and remember that you can still have fun in the bedroom while raising kids.
While it would have been gross to hear my parents having sex when I was a teen, it would have been extremely reassuring that even though my parents were getting older, been married for a while, and had kids they still loved and found each other attractive enough to do that.
I'm willing to take bets that your daughter has no idea anything was amiss, children forget things they don't understand. And I really don't think it would have disturbed her for any reason. Like PP said, if she remembers anything it will be when she's older and puts 2 and 2 together, and will find it hilarious.
Totally agree...and props to you as parents for making sure you have raised your son in a manner where he knows it is okay to talk to you about these kinds of things.
Growing up, I always knew my parents had a healthy sex life. They were not trashy, they were not raunchy...they just enjoyed sex with each other and didn't teach their kids that it was something to be ashamed of. It didn't gross me out--I realized it was an important part of marriage and was glad that while my friends parents were all getting divorces, my parents were still both very much in love and very much attracted to each other. I hope my kids will someday feel the same way about DH and I.
BFP 5/2/11, missed m/c, D&C 6/13/11
BFP 12/8/11--Little Girl E Born 8/22/12
Wow, she's ridiculous...
anyway, I thought it was funny and I read somewhere in a marriage book that one of the greatest gifts you can give to your children is the security of knowing that mom and dad are happy and love each other. I'm sure your son will be a great husband and father one day since he has been shown what a happy marriage looks like
First off, that's so awesome that your'e still having hot-sweaty-pretzel-sex when you've been married for over 15 years!
Second, forget about the poster who called you trashy. It's not like you were doing it on purpose, she's probably just jealous that she doesn't have your sex life.
Third, you will look back on this and laugh, it's probably too fresh right now though. But it is rather funny. From an outsider's prospective anyways. Your youngen most likely didn't see/think anything of it, and your older one... well at least there is so much going on in a teens life, it will be old news before you know it.
I walked in on my parents when I was 18 and they were in their early 50s. They told me to let them know when I got home from whatever high school dance I was at. I think I came home earlier than they expected...
Thankfully, they were so into it, they didn't even notice that I opened the door. I went back outside for a while, slammed a few doors on my way back in, and stomped up the stairs as loud as I could...
You are absolutely not trashy, and the kid will live.
Life kind of took me here, there and everywhere the last week or so.... I forgot about this post!
DD hasn't said a word, I think she was half-asleep, and she isn't going to be scarred for life, yet. DS hasn't said anything else, but he often says something like, 'No PDA allowed' if we're hugging in the kitchen, and so on....
We are pretty open about all kinds of difficult discussions in our house. Not that we like them or that they're easy, but the kids know it's just as hard for us as it is for them, but hey, we're all in this together!
-Jumps a bit onto her high horse for a moment- Personally, I think sex is just one of those topics that is both serious and amusing. I think the emotions and feelings and consequences that come along with sex and sexual relationships are very, very serious. But, the thing is, sex is also funny, embarrassing, uncomfortable, and completely human. You make weird noises and faces, you contort your body all in the name of pleasure and adventure, there are serious feeling of highs and the sky-is-the-limit, and at times, you can feel like you've run a series of speed bumps. We aren't nudists or hippies, nor are we closed-off conservatives that sleep in separate beds while wearing flannel footie pj's. I think the boy has a pretty healthy understanding of his parents, and rather healthy sense of humor too. -Leaps of high horse- .
Anyway, I wasn't ignoring anyone or anything, just busy. busy. busy. Now I'm off to reconstruct a black garbage bag into something smexy so I can try out my new stripper pole that we installed for Christmas. It's in the formal living room. The Christmas tree is surrounding it, so I need to watch out for those needles.
Hope everyone had a Merry Christmas.