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Can I vent, please?
I know no one wants to hear about the problems with me and my "husband" but I need to vent somewhere.
H has been posting up on my couch since the week before Thanksgiving, odd days here and there. Instead of taking DD home with him and spending alone time with her, he wants to watch her here. This all sounds great cause he is spending time with DD but its not. He is standing guard on the door so I cant go out and live life.
Well he showed up Monday night with his bottle of liquor and clearly high on the pills, he was passing out in the chair mid sentence... it was so embarrassing. I made him go to sleep in my bed and I slept on the couch. The next morning when he left for work I texted him basically saying "I left you because I didnt want to see you in that condition, WTH are you thinking coming to my parents house and pulling this sh!t for" I didnt hear from him till today.
Last night I texted him asking if he was going to want to take Paige this weekend and I wake up to a return text from him saying " Its slow at work, maybe i could possibly stop by" UGHHHHHHHH NO YOU FREAKING IDIOT, I DONT WANT YOU HERE. I sear he had more common sense when I married him.
If you made it this far, Thank you lol
Re: Can I vent, please?
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I'm sorry you are having to deal with this.
Aren't you staying @ your parents? I don't have any real advice except to be firm w/ him that he can not, and is not welcome to stay on your couch.
I also would not want him to take your daughter anywhere.. Especially if he is driving around boozed up and high on pills.
Have you gone to court or anything? I think I remember you left not that long ago?
Maybe you can get a court order that you can meet him @ a certain place so that he can visit with her, and then you take her home?
I'm so sorry, Tricia. I think I'd have mixed feelings about it if I was in your position. On the one hand, if he is at your house at least you know he's not getting drunk and then driving with Paige in the car. Do you guys have a formal custody agreement? Do you think there is a risk that he will put your daughter's life in danger in his current state of addiction?
On the other hand, he absolutely has no right to impose himself upon you the way he is. You have a right to move on with your life and you have no legal or moral obligation to allow him in your house if you don't want to.
I am so sorry for everything he has and is putting you and Paige through. I hope he is able to clean up and straighten out his life before he bottoms out or kills himself.
And I will say for myself at least that I will always be here to listen anytime you need to vent. You have a lot on your plate and we all need support sometimes!
I agree with all of this. I'll listen anytime you want to vent too.
Don't worry about venting Tricia, we're here for you.
You have to do what's best for you and Paige, and since he doesn't seem to care about any of that, I wouldn't worry about ticking him off. He is taking advantage of the situation and that is only going to hurt you and Paige more, and leave him less likely to get the help he needs. You have every right to tell it like it is.