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Losing my $*%$ing mind

My family has always been rather ... open. But yeah. The last 18 hours of my life have been annoying to say the least.

Mom (widowed a year and four months ago) flew in last night for the weekend so she could see DH, stepdaughter and I. She got in at 3p. Since then, she has a) walked around the house in her underwear because "she doesn't have pants" and b) made numerous comments about how if DH is (in trouble/cold/bored) he can just sleep with her.

Talking to her about this will have no affect. Someone just please send good thoughts that I will make it through Monday.

At least DH is understanding. So is stepdaughter. She hasn't seen the pantless wonder or heard the comments (we pick her up today). Last weekend, however, after my mom had called numerous times she looked at me and said, with her 9-year-old wisdom, "I think your mom might need a boyfriend." Either that or a male escort! 

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Re: Losing my $*%$ing mind

  • Oh my! Who the hell walks around in their underwear in someone elses house?!?!

    You couldn't even say to your mom that you're not comfortable with her hanging out in her pantless state? Or that you have a CYA rule? 

    That's hilarious that a 9 year old said your mom needs a BF. Good luck!

  • imageJRSonday:

    My family has always been rather ... open. But yeah. The last 18 hours of my life have been annoying to say the least.

    Mom (widowed a year and four months ago) flew in last night for the weekend so she could see DH, stepdaughter and I. She got in at 3p. Since then, she has a) walked around the house in her underwear because "she doesn't have pants" and b) made numerous comments about how if DH is (in trouble/cold/bored) he can just sleep with her.

    Talking to her about this will have no affect. Someone just please send good thoughts that I will make it through Monday.

    At least DH is understanding. So is stepdaughter. She hasn't seen the pantless wonder or heard the comments (we pick her up today). Last weekend, however, after my mom had called numerous times she looked at me and said, with her 9-year-old wisdom, "I think your mom might need a boyfriend." Either that or a male escort! 

    I don't know if I am reading this correctly.  YOUR mother said that your DH could sleep with her?  What?  If that's true I'm sorry but that is so inappropriate I don't even have a comment about it - just....wow.  For your mother to say that to her son-in-law....that crosses so many lines lol

    So sorry you have to deal with all this.  Maybe nicely suggest to your mom she might want to try one of those online dating sites?  Sounds to be like she is on the prowl for attention wherever she can get it.

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    imageJRSonday:

    My family has always been rather ... open. But yeah. The last 18 hours of my life have been annoying to say the least.

    Mom (widowed a year and four months ago) flew in last night for the weekend so she could see DH, stepdaughter and I. She got in at 3p. Since then, she has a) walked around the house in her underwear because "she doesn't have pants" and b) made numerous comments about how if DH is (in trouble/cold/bored) he can just sleep with her.

    Talking to her about this will have no affect. Someone just please send good thoughts that I will make it through Monday.

    At least DH is understanding. So is stepdaughter. She hasn't seen the pantless wonder or heard the comments (we pick her up today). Last weekend, however, after my mom had called numerous times she looked at me and said, with her 9-year-old wisdom, "I think your mom might need a boyfriend." Either that or a male escort! 

    I don't know if I am reading this correctly.  YOUR mother said that your DH could sleep with her?  What?  If that's true I'm sorry but that is so inappropriate I don't even have a comment about it - just....wow.  For your mother to say that to her son-in-law....that crosses so many lines lol

    So sorry you have to deal with all this.  Maybe nicely suggest to your mom she might want to try one of those online dating sites?  Sounds to be like she is on the prowl for attention wherever she can get it.

    Or buy her a year long subscription for Christmas!

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  • Did you see Modern Family where Cam's mom came to visit? Ahhhhhh!

    Hang in there! Monday will come soon.

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  • Oh my.  Sending you all the patience I have (which unfortunately isn't much) to help you make it through the weekend!  Your mom sounds like a piece of work...
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  • imagestephaniem1977:

    Did you see Modern Family where Cam's mom came to visit? Ahhhhhh!

    Hang in there! Monday will come soon.

    HAHAHA, sounds like her just 100 times worse Ick!

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  • holy crap.  that's all i can really think. 

    Sending you lots of thoughts!

    On the plus side, I guess you know what she needs for x-mas....PANTS!!!!

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  • I'd kick her out.

    But if it were my mother, I'd be looking for a reason to kick her out. 

    *shoves all mother related bitterness away*

    That's ridiculous. It really does sound like she could use a boyfriend though. Loneliness can get to you. Good luck dealing with her and I hope she doesn't embarrass herself like that in front of SD.

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  • I know that you said talking to her doesn't help, but I would sit down and say, "Mom, joking around with me and DH is one thing, but I would really appreciate it if you wouldn't make inappropriate comments in front of stepdaughter.  She's only 9.  I bought you some comfy fleece pajama pants, and if you can't wear them at night, you'll just have to stay in your room."  Honestly, I would totally pull the 'my house, my rules' card.
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  • um..did I miss that part where you clarified the "DH can just sleep with me part"?

    Cause I really need that one explained. 

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  • imageLauraT25:
    I know that you said talking to her doesn't help, but I would sit down and say, "Mom, joking around with me and DH is one thing, but I would really appreciate it if you wouldn't make inappropriate comments in front of stepdaughter.  She's only 9.  I bought you some comfy fleece pajama pants, and if you can't wear them at night, you'll just have to stay in your room."  Honestly, I would totally pull the 'my house, my rules' card.

    This, exactly.  And I'd give her some latitude with SD, but keep a close eye - first inappropriate remark, Mom heads to a motel or the airport.  No reason in the world to drag her 9-year-old step-granddaughter into her psychosis/neurosis/loneliness/whateverness.

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  • Wow! Your mom sounds like my MIL. Walks around however she wants which usually means naked. Thank goodness she nevers stays with us. I would definitely let her know it's not cool to walk around like that plus it shows no respect for you/DH. GL!!!
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  • imagestephaniem1977:

    Did you see Modern Family where Cam's mom came to visit? Ahhhhhh!

    Hang in there! Monday will come soon.

    YES! This is totally my life right now. AHHH!!! Thankfully, Trav threw her a pair of sweatpants, so we've been good. 

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  • With regards to the "he can sleep with me," I mostly just ignore it. She thankfully has really toned it down ... I think Trav's awkward silences and him backing away from her has helped there.

    I feel bad for her ... I really do. But, on the other hand, she needs to find her own happiness. We had a big talk about it the other night ... love finds you when you're not looking, blah blah blah.

    Ready for Monday. Big time. 

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