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I DD'ed
It's better that it's gone.
I want to start off by explaining myself.
I've always been an independent person. I've prided myself on it. And for the last seven years, JP and I have figured out our lives together, yes with the support of our parents, but it was always on our own.
Since moving back to PA in June, and into the ILs house, I've taken on 2 parttime jobs, JP is subbing, and we literally don't have control over the food we're eating, who's watching what on tv, or when we can do laundry. And I know I sound rediculously ungrateful for complaining that my ILs have graciously opened their house to us, but it's smothering.
Last night DH and I were up until 2am, and he finally confessed how depressed he's become over the situation. We've always been planners and set ourselves up for success... so that we wouldn't have to go through any trials and tribulations. By now we figured we'd be well on our way to parenthood... because the jobs would have fallen into place.
For those who haven't been keeping track, finding a job is proving to be more difficult than either of us imagined. I've got eight irons in the fire with potential prospects, and the job I applied to in July, interviewed in September, and haven't heard a peep since....
I apologize for stirring the pot. I really didn't mean to. It's really me venting, and feeling pathetic about my current situation.
Ana, please, please don't take my previous comment to heart. I was really just venting. Besides... who wouldn't want a future bobcat to add to the pack?
Re: I DD'ed
It's difficult to not take your previous comment personally when you called me out by name for no reason at all. I still do not see what my pregnancy specifically has anything to do with your circumstances.
I've always been happy and excited for everyone on this board from the bottom of my heart about babies, jobs, school, houses etc. etc. And if you're not happy/excited for me that's completely fine and really makes no difference in my life, but I would appreciate not being singled out. It's wrong and unfair.
My Married Bio
Love, marriage and a baby carriage
I understand that singling you out was uncalled for, and again, I am sorry. And again, it's not that I'm not happy for you.
I'm chalking it up to flat out jealousy at this point. I know things may be different on the inside, but from the outside looking in, I can't help but wish my life aligned more with yours.... great job, doting husband, own house, fabulous getaways, awesome job-on-the-side wedding planning/coordinating business, gorgeous pooch, and a bundle of job on the way!
Again, from the outside looking in, your life couldn't be more perfect.
Digging myself into a deeper hole, possibly.
Sorry but to single someone out and say how their news of expecting their first child upsets you, is mean and unfair. We all wish for things that others, have, but it's not her fault that you feel jealously towards her.Wouldn't it have been easier to just say what you really felt that you are jealous that your life isn't where you thought it would be at this poing, vs hurting someone's feelings?
This board is generally very supportive and a great outlet to share/vent/ news, but I agree w/ Anna that you were completely out of line.
I'm pretty sure she already feels bad enough and she apologized for her actions. Why rub salt on the wound? Completely uncalled for.
I thought that too. I can't imagine being so openly negative and calling someone out on something so special in their life. Ridiculous. And thank you
My Married Bio
Love, marriage and a baby carriage
Honestly I felt the need to respond as I was truly surprised to read something like that on this board. I don't feel the need to apoligize as I wasn't trying to rub salt in the wounds, but the attack on Ana was just out of line