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WWYD?
If I am in the wrong please tell me because I have tried to see both sides of this and can not understand it.
DH told me last night that his parents will not buy my kids anything for Christmas. My kids are not their blood related grandchildren so they don't consider them their granschildren. So they will not buy them anything.
So while their other 5 grandchildren open their presents and DH and I open ours and the rest of the family open their gifts my kids will be sitting there with nothing to open.
WTH??? I dont not get it since last year she got them something.
I am so pi$$ed right now. I dont even want to go. What would you do?
Re: WWYD?
No its not amoney thing. It just that they are not blood related so she thinks they she should not buy them anything because they have grandparents already and they dont need any more. So why should they buy my kids anything.
DH and I are fighting over this because he feels that his mother is right.
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No since last year they bought them something. So I dont get where this is coming from. And she didnt tell me she told DH.
We are to go and be there by 4 and then we read the Christmas story and do all this other stuff and then we eat at 5:00pm and then clean up and then presents at 7pm.
We will get the outline of events this week. So I dont think we could go later on.
Garett said I am over reacting and just to drop it. But I cant!
I could've sworn I remember reading something exactly like this last year. Maybe that wasn't you?
Could you and your DH buy a gift for the kids to bring with you so they have something to open? I think it's ridiculous what your MIL is doing.
I assume they are Christian by the statement above. They are not acting very Christian like if you ask me. I'd leave after the clean up, before the presents.
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This makes me so mad. How could she do this to children?! I would say you have three options; 1. leave before the presents are passed out 2. refuse any gifts she gives you (an all or nothing kind of thought) or 3. get gifts for the kids that they can open when the others open their presents.
I think the most important thing is that you and your H need to be on the same page. You and your kids are his family, he married all of you guys. As a step-child myself I would have been crushed if I was made to feel as if I wasn't as important as the other children just because I wasn't blood. He needs to make the right desicion for his family's happiness.
That is completely and totally wrong. There is no reason that your kids should be treated any differently by your DH's parents. Who cares if they are not blood related. They are part of the family period. If Andrew's family did this to Suraya I would not go to any of their functions. In my eyes you married their son so you and your children are part of their family as is anyone else.
If you do decide to go don't go when they are handing out presents and don't accept one if they give you one. I would call in advance and let them know you don't want to go there when presents are being handed out because your kids will be left out. Your kids will see everyone else gets presents and they will know they are not accepted when they realize they aren't getting one.
I am so sad about this whole thing. Why would they do that to children? Not accepting an adult is one thing but it can scar a kid.
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Nope it was me. This summer they were really good with us and the kids. Never really had an issue, This just totally shock me. I could not believe it when DH told me.
So now I dont know what to do. If we go I can totally see Hunter saying something to them. And I am scared to see what she would say to him. And I dont even know that they would totally inderstand. I just think its really crappy of her to do this
It's BEYOND crappy of her to do that. I can't imagine a grown adult being so rude to kids. I honestly don't know what I'd do in your position. I'd probably call her and ask if you really understood correctly that there wouldn't be any presents there for your kids as you wanted to either bring some for them or something else. I'm not above putting her on the spot and making her explain it to you.
Also, does your DH stand up to her? Does he call her out on her unacceptable behavior?
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This is totally what I would do. If others will be opening gifts in front of the kids I would be furious. However, I have to say, all I can think is that she is just saying this and when it comes down to it she will have a few gifts for them.
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This is totally what I would do. If others will be opening gifts in front of the kids I would be furious. However, I have to say, all I can think is that she is just saying this and when it comes down to it she will have a few gifts for them.
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He has gotten a lot better then before. He has never called her out which really upsets me.