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I got to see my aunt yesterday

My mother babysat my kids, and I drove over to my aunt's house. She was having a "good" day. She is tired and looks frail. I don't think I had ever seen her without makeup or with a single hair out of place on her head. So, seeing her au natural was different, notwithstanding the situation.

I sat right next to her, and we just chatted. She had photos of her new granddaughter and her whole family cycling through the digital picture frame beside her. During those couple of "awkward" silence moments, it was nice to be able to gaze on the faces of those who love her most.

I only stayed about a half hour, but had a very pleasant visit. Other than asking how she was feeling and if she was comfortable, we didn't talk/dwell on her illness. I told her that although I haven't been calling often, I get daily updates from my mom. My aunt and her family have been on the forefront of my mind and in my prayers since she was first diagnosed with cancer this summer. I wished her a happy half birthday, and congratulated her on the newest addition to the family. We even had a few small chuckles. I was able to talk briefly with my uncle and cousins too. They're numb, and there is a veil of sadness over them all. But they know that I will do anything I can for them, if and when they need help.

Amazingly, I didn't cry yesterday. Well, not until I was going to bed. It was not a sad visit. I'm so glad that I was able to spend some time with my aunt. The things that went unsaid didn't need to be.

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Re: I got to see my aunt yesterday

  • I'm so happy you had a good visit with her Alicia. I know it must have been hard but as you said...glad to spend some time with her. Thinking about you all...
  • Aw Alicia I am so glad that you had a nice visit with your aunt! Honestly the only thing you can do at this point is to cherish all the visits you can still have with her. Take advantage of them and visit her as often as you can. If you need me to take the kids so you can scoot up to see her just let me know. I understand how important these final weeks are. I am very grateful to my IL's and my friends who babysat my kids for me so that I could get quality time with my dad.
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  • i'm so glad you got to have a nice visit with your aunt. i'm thinking of your family, i hope there are some more "good days" for you guys. *hugs*
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  • So glad you were able to have a nice visit with your aunt. Hugs to you, keeping you all in my thoughts.
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  • So glad you had a nice visit. :)
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  • I'm so glad that you were able to spend some time with your aunt.  Hugs to you and your entire family.  Cancer sucks.
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