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Traveling with Fiances family help!!!
ok so me and my fiance have been engaged for a few months 
His grandparents live in Cleveland and I was invited to go with his family from december 26th-dec 29th to visit his grandparents. My mom is having a huge fit about "how we arent married" and we are traveling together, and that it wont "look proper"
I have traditional values and I am going with his entire family on the trip its not just us two alone. I am sleeping on a different floor level than him when we are there also. Any suggestions on how to ease my moms rants about "how I am not proper"
p.s. I have extremely traditional values and even I dont think this is a big deal.....please help fellow knotties especially if you have gone through this same experience.
Re: Traveling with Fiances family help!!!
Yeah, when I first read this, I thought it was about how his family didn't want you to share a room and I was going to tell you that maybe it would be respectful of you to go with what they're comfortable with. This is about your mother that has nothing to do with the trip? Then I second the PP's suggestion, I have no idea why this would be a question.
Or is this because you think because she would think it's improper his family might as well and you don't want to make a bad impression? Let him navigate those waters.
Exactly.
Your mother's nuts -- she's over reacting.
I'd tell her that the topic isn't open to discussion.
A couple of questions.
First, how old are you? Second, do you and FI belong to the same church as your mother?
According to old school etiquette, if you are traveling with at least one married couple, you are adequately chaparoned. Dig out an old Emily Post and wave it in front of her. Otherwise, engage your pastor to talk some sense into her.
This.
Honestly, my guess is your mom is really upset that you aren't spending Christmas with her. And again, the above answer is the most appropriate to that as well.
OP is leaving on the 26th, so we can assume she's with mom on Christmas.
If you're not currently living in her house, then she cannot boss you around. Just say, "You raised me right, so please trust that I'll do the right thing," and then don't discuss it anymore.
However, if you ARE still living at home with her, then of course she's going to expect you to do what she says. You either have to find a way to deal with that, or move out so you can live your own life.
Well, just go anyway. You don't have to do what mommy says when you're an adult. What's the worst that can happen? She'll be mad for a few days and then she'll get over it.
That's assuming, of course, that you are actually an adult and not dependent on her for your basic living needs.
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Sara, Friend?
glove slap. I don't take crap.
Um, it's been less than a day. Maybe she posted, went to bed, got up, and went to work. It's highly possible that she has a job that doesn't let her use the computer for personal use.
Or maybe she just decided to give it a day before checking the responses.
Um, it's been less than a day. Maybe she posted, went to bed, got up, and went to work. It's highly possible that she has a job that doesn't let her use the computer for personal use.
Or maybe she just decided to give it a day before checking the responses.