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Sleepless nights
On most nights, DH works overnights (while I'm sleeping). So I get to sleep how I want. He's typically coming home right as I leave for work. On his off days, he tends to stay up all night and sleep all day. Works out great b/c I'm at work and he's sleeping so we're not "missing" one another. Add to that, he's been on a hunting vacation for the past few weeks. During this time, he was gone and I'd have the bed to myself every night. I've sort of grown accustomed to laying diagonally across the bed.
Well he's getting readjusted to his overnight hours by staying up as late as he can. Unfortunately for me, that is now 2-3 in the morning. I'm a light sleeper so I wake up every time he enters the room. And I can't seem to fall back asleep after he comes in the room. Plus, I feel like he's taking over my sleeping space.
When I told him about it, he said he'd go sleep in the guest room so I could have a good nights sleep. But I have always frowned upon that.....we're married. We're supposed to sleep in the same bed. Grrr.
Re: Sleepless nights
i would agree about the sleeping in the same bed thing. you definitely should not be having to sleep in different beds when you are married!
do you think a sleep mask would help you or some earplugs? I know its not ideal, but it may help you get used to the changes. Also, maybe talk to your doctor about how lightly you are sleeping. There may be some things that your dr can suggest to you for how to sleep better (not necessarily medications, theres lots you can do to ensure a better nights sleep). Maybe then you wouldn't awake to every sound/light.
Then again, i have the same problem....and i haven't yet asked my dr about it.
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I think it's just something that you're going to have to get adjusted to. I know for me, when I first started dating DH and having sleep overs and stuff - in the beginning I felt like I barely got any sleep because I just wasn't used to having someone in the bed with me. But eventually you adjust and it just becomes normal.
Hopefully you both adjust quickly and the sleepless nights don't last very long!!! Will his overnight work schedule ever change? I mean, at some point you will be sleeping at the same time right?
This is EXACTLY my problem, lol So, unfortunately, I don't really have any suggestions because I haven't been able to solve it either. I have actually slept on the couch the last 2 nights in a row. Not a big improvement. Since our apartment window-blinds let a lot of light in, I'm thinking of hanging some heavy curtains on them, possibly getting a sleeping mask and telling DH to please not close/open the bedroom door all the way because it's noisy and kind of lets air whoosh into the room. I am also seriously considering a sleeping med of some sort because I feel like this has gone on too long and I'm tired of being exhausted.
I guess if I do figure something out, I can let you know
I am a VERY light sleeper too. Brian is a night-owl and he stays up till the wee hours of the morning and is pretty noisy doing things. I would also wake up whenever he would come to bed, and it would take me forever to fall asleep. Slight snoring would keep me awake. Noises outside would wake me up. If for any reason I woke up, I'd stay up for a long time. I would have days and days of sleeping only a few hours to the point I would cry because I was so exhausted but couldn't sleep. I tried so many different ear plugs to drown out the small noises that would wake me, I tried every over-the-counter sleep aid there was. I tried tea. I tried warm milk. EVERYTHING! FINALLY I found a solution that worked for me: silicone ear plugs. They mold to fit the shape of your ear and are comfy and don't fall out. And since I can't hear most sounds with them in, I focus on the sound of my breathing, which is calming and helps put me to sleep. I barely notice bed movements at all now because I fall asleep so comfortably. Brian says now he can roll me over and I very rarely notice. Maybe you could try that? The ones I use are called Mack's Pillow Soft Earplugs... here's the website so you can see what they look like. http://www.macksearplugs.com/details/ear-plugs-for-sleeping/pillow-soft-earplugs-6-pair-value
I tried all sorts of other earplugs, none of them helped except these. I seriously sleep like a baby now.
Thanks for the suggestions ladies! I think I'll try earplugs for now and if the problem continues, I'll see my Dr.
He will eventually switch over to "normal" working hours but probably not until we have kids. He gets paid shift differential to work overnights and the money is nice.