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NYE plans update
A while ago I posted a "vent" post about room accommodations for NYE, which we were spending with my IL's, B/SIL & our nephews in Big Bear. Well, some things have happened recently and we've realized that this is a disaster waiting to happen. Like a giant sign that says "DISASTER" flashing in red neon lights. At first it sounded all fun & hunky dory, but we've seen the error of our ways.
Now we have to figure out how to tell my IL's that we don't want to go anymore. Ugh. I just... I feel like they're for sure going to think it's because of me, and I don't want that tension, but I really don't want to spend the holiday trapped in a cabin with my BIL either. Not fun. We know my M/FIL won't be happy, but if we go we won't be happy, and that's more important at this point.
For the record, I don't want to go & I voiced that to DH, but I've ultimately left the decision up to him because it's his family and we've never gone OOT with his family, but have gone on several camping trips with my family.
To top it off we also need to talk to them and see if we can change Christmas plans so we just spent Christmas Eve with them & not Christmas morning like usual. They're going to hate me after this is all done.
eta: I forgot to add, DH doesn't want to go either. The only reason he wanted to go was because he thought we were going to take our new sleeping bags & test them out there. 
Men.
Re: NYE plans update
LOL! What a funny reason!
To everything else: UGH!!! I'm sorry you're in this position right now, but I'm glad you and your DH are on the same page and have decided not to go given how unpleasant it would be for you. That stinks that you have to tell them about this and Christmas all in the same time frame. You may have mentioned this before, but is there any particular reason they will blame you for all this (other than typical in-law dynamics)? Is there any kind of "consolation prize" you can offer them, like well we know we can't do this NYE's trip, but how about we get together for XYZ later in the month? Either way, good luck!!
There's never really been an instance where they've blamed me for anything, so I would just blame my worries on typical IL dynamics, like you said. I just don't want my M/FIL to think badly about me because I do get along with them really well for the most part. It's just my BIL that I have a hard time being around for more then a few hours.