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An all new... something... on Facebook.
I don't want to say this is an all new low on Facebook, but it kind of is, or at least it's very unnecessary and strange and it's giving me all kinds of weird feelings.
When I was very young, maybe four years old, there was a girl in my brother's and my Sunday School class who got cancer. She died and the whole church was sad. I remember her - not very well - but I've never forgotten her, she was a good friend to all of us when we were little. Her death tore her family apart. It was tragic; her parents divorced because her father just couldn't move on at all and her mother didn't want to relive the grief over and over with him.
Today my brother and I got a Facebook friend request from the girl. The deceased girl! Someone (don't know who) made a Facebook profile for her and added the word Angel as her last name. I tried to view her profile, but wouldn't you know she has pretty good privacy controls going on. But I was able to see her friend list, several, several members of our church have accepted the friend request. She has favorite movies listed and everything.
There was nothing even close to Facebook when she alive. If she is a little four year old girl in heaven looking down, she wouldn't understand what this was, even if it is some kind of tribute to her.
I just have no words. I don't want to seem callous by not accepting the request, but it just seems inappropriate to me. I didn't cry when she died because I didn't understand, but now I'm on the brink of tears.
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Re: An all new... something... on Facebook.
Oh man, awful. One of my good friend's brother's died two years ago and their mom created a fb page for him not long after. I think it's a way for her to cope, but it's still really...weird I guess? Uncomfortable?
Maybe a bit creepier, a girl I went to school with lost both her parents a few years ago. A fb profile for her father was created recently, and whoever created it comments on everything like her father would.
I think maybe I would friend her? If it was a memorial-type page, I might be ok with it...but if it's someone pretending to BE her, not so much. But as Lilbit said, if you're not comfortable with accepting the request - don't.
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This - I think you have a point Noron. It's one thing to pretend to be someone...that's really strange. But a memorial page may be ok.
I can't see the wall or most of the profile, so I don't know which it is.
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I completely agree with Noron. Someone pretending to be someone who died years ago is very creepy and inappropriate. However, it wouldn't be as bad as a memorial page.
If you're not comfortable friending her, don't do it. No one will look down on you.
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That seems like an incredibly odd thing to do, especially where she passed away so long ago, and was so young, it sounds like someone is trying to create a "life" for her.
I personally wouldn't friend her, I think it would be really weird. I understand making groups for people who have passed away, we made one for my cousin, but creating a profile with favorite movies....what is the point? What kinds of posts would there be...
Creepy, IMHO.
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