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Freindship advice needed
Hello everyone!I need some advise! A short background. I am newly married and my friend and hubby hate each other. This causes a strain. I feel like I'm always sticking up for her. But the truth is she is a lot of work. A drama queen like no other, and she is a single mom who doesn't always do things the way I would. I get overwhelmed by all of the "favors" she asks of me constantly. I feel guilty that she is a single mom, but fusterated that her priorities are not in order.I just don't know how to create a health freindship with out hurting her feelings. I need to focus my time and my extra cash on my own marriage. Have any of you experienced this? What would you do? Thank you in advance!
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Re: Freindship advice needed
i think we have the same friend haha.
i am in a very similar situation. DH does not like my good friend and i always feel like i end up playing mediator between the two of them. but in the end, she is the one who is exhausting (although he is too in his own way some times
). anyway, i find myself going out of my way for her and not being retaliated with the same kindness. DH always tells me i am too nice and then i insert various excuses for her. but i've realized that he is right. i AM too nice and treat her like i would want to be treated but am not in fact treated that way in return.
i've enacted a rule for myself to help this. i will do one thing to help her out per month. i havent told her that i made this rule, i just keep a tally myself. if she calls/texts/emails me on the 1st of the month, too bad. i say no the rest of the month. if she doesnt ask until the 30th, that was her one favor for the month. its helped me to not go out of my way with time or money so much, doesnt make me feel *too* bad because im still doing something fo her, and DH doesnt feel like im constantly running to her rescue.
another thing that ive done with a friend to control how much i see/dont see them is enact a date each month. pick a day (first tuesday, third wednesday, etc) and stick to it. thats your date each month. then alternate months of choosing what to do.
good luck!