April 2010 Weddings
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Everything Happens For A Reason
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Do you think everything happens for a reason? Name something that has happened in your life that makes you think that this statement is true....or tell us why you think it's not true.
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Yes I definitely do. I find examples of this all the time but have only had one cup of coffee so I'll go with the most obvious:
I graduated college with all intentions of either getting a job w/ a newspaper or auditioning for dance jobs on cruise ships. I went out on NYE with an old friend who insisted that I belonged in Miami and that I also would be a great lawyer. Against all reason, I signed up the next day for the LSAT and sent an application to University of Miami law school -- i said that if I got in then this was supposed to happen, and if I didn't then I would go ahead with my previous career plans. Initially I was put on a wait list and then accepted, and I drove to Miami for the first time ever when I moved there. Totally crazy and not something I would ever do (I'm a planner!!!) but that's where I met DH and also where I found a career that I really love.
I totally think things happen for a reason.
Almost 5 years ago, I was invited to my 10 year class reunion. I was really hesitant to go since most of my friends from HS weren't going to be there. I went anyway. That night, my now H, asked me to go to the bar with him. I said "no", but within 2 weeks, I had found his email adress (thanks to classmates.com) and we had decided to go out for drinks after all. Almost 4 years later, we were married.
I absolutely do. There were a lot of factors that went into DH and I finding each other. He had a scholarship to a school to wrestle but got injured and lost it. I was going to go to another school, but financially it did not work out. We both ended up going to the same school, working in the same place, and falling in love.
I also totally believe that there is no such thing as "accidents" in this life. And while I have many examples, I'll share one of the most recent:
When I was laid off from my last job in 2/09, I was working for a company whose leadership did not mesh with my ideal of a well run firm, and they did not treat their employees very well. But, it paid handsomely, and I got along well with my co-workers, so even as I saw both my hiring Mgr., (and her Mgr as well as a few others) leave because the environment was just so toxic, I stayed on. After all, I didn't want to just "leave" a good paying job for no reason, right?
Well, there were rumors of layoffs running rampant around the firm. I knew that it was more than just rumors. As I worked in Human Resources, I was involved in helping to manage the layoff process for many of those employees. And while I didn't feel that I was "safe", the thought just never crossed my mind that I was going to get sandbagged also, as our department was lean enough as it was. So, when my Mgr. called me into his office and I saw another Mgr. sitting there also with tears in her eyes, I knew right away that I was losing my job. I thanked them for the opportunity, called my "boyfriend" (haha!) and told him what happened, collected my stuff and went home.
That was the best thing that could have happened to me, careerwise! Because had I not gotten laid off, I would probably still be there in that extremely stressful, toxic work environment. Instead, I've been blessed with an awesome job that yes, pays well, but more importantly, the environment is head and shoulders above any that I've ever worked in, they do value their employees and work/life balances issues are given priority. We do work hard here, but the rewards are well worth it. So, I am quite thankful that I was laid off from my last job :-))
I do believe everything happens for a reason!
DH met my dad in the Air Force, and DH started his business only a mile from my family's house! He chose a location 45 min from where he lived, and bc my dad knew him he wanted to go check it out, and later encouraged me to apply to work there. We spent lots of time together working while his previous "marriage" (I dont think it was really ever that good) was falling apart and he was stressed and worried about the kids well being. I was his shoulder to lean on and he was mine when my mom got sick. The rest is history :-)
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There are so many items I could list from DH's and my relationship. After college I had planned to get a job up in Michigan because the guy I had been dating all through college was going to be getting a job there. A friend from college happened to call me and offer me a job in St. Louis instead. I took it with intentions of eventually still going to Michigan.
At the same time, DH had gotten a job right out of college (he graduated 4 years before me). He quit that job, got another one, got laid off from job # 2, and finally came to work for the exact same company two months before I started working there.
If I had moved to Michigan first or if DH didn't quit and get laid off from his jobs, we never would have met. I think everything happens for a reason, even though you don't always know what those reasons are until later.