September 2010 Weddings
steffiel
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09.25.10
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Ho ho ho confession session
I'm bored, work is moving slower than ever and all I can think about is the zillion of things I feel like I need to do before Saturday.
Holiday or non-Holiday related confessions, rants, open letters, wtfever.
Go!
09.25.10
Re: Ho ho ho confession session
The Princess of Anything is Coming!
Had a dream I was queen.
Woke up. Still queen.
Confession - I took a "sick" day yesterday from work just to get some gifts made and to clean up around the house. I found out Monday night that Don's Aunt has to work on Christmas Eve so she won't be at the family get-together (she's the one who created massive drama last xmas eve)...I'm so overly happy she won't be there and that we'll get to have a nice night w/ Don's family!
I still have to make 1 blanket, go buy a GC, wrap 4 more gifts, bake another batch of truffles, make an apple pie (for xmas eve), make pumpkin cupcakes and banana bread...all has to be done by Friday afternoon! UGH - I should have taken another "sick" day from work! LoL!!!
I'm really annoyed w/ my work. They're not doing anything for Christmas...no SS or luncheon! I orchestrated both of those last year and gave up on doing it again this year. Just because I'm the only one here w/ a vajaja doesn't mean I should have to do all those kind of things, every freakin year!
I know I sound like Scrooge, but this is a big reason why I didn't bother participating this year - when I handled it last year & saw how many people were screwed out of receiving a gift, and then received excuses (some of which may have been valid) or who told they had sent or would send a gift but clearly didn't, I said to hell with it. I understand things come up that may put a SS on the backburner, but it still awful.
09.25.10
09.25.10
Yeah, that's my family. H and I define ourselves as "not religious" which makes them REALLY angry, but most of them aren't any better.
The Princess of Anything is Coming!
Had a dream I was queen.
Woke up. Still queen.
confession- MIL is driving me crazy. Just because my family is weird and isn't getting together, doesn't mean that I need to dedicate 2 entire days to celebrating with your entire family. If DH wants to also get together with his dad and step mom, back the F off and don't make us feel guilty about that.
Confession- As of yesterday, i was going to be holding DH's presents ransom until he went shopping for me. I did ALL the shopping this year. The only shopping he needed to do was for me. He is off this week and all he has done so far is go ice fishing. Thankfully, he came home from fishing last night with presents so I no longer have to hold his ransom. :-)
Steff - the once/twice a year mass attendees are probably the ones forced into going my their parents. The rest of the year it's easier to dodge them. Yes, I speak from experience. hahaha
As for the SS, can Jen do some some of inventory, like now-ish so we know whats up? I (and I am sure others) would be willing to step in to make sure we round it out. It's fine to say screw the people who didn't send anything, but it's so not fair if you sent something and you're not getting anything.
Confession: I think I may have spent more on myself this Christmas than anyone else
That's some major selfishness for you! hahaha With all these Christmas deals flying around, I couldn't resist buying clothes/shoes. This is a new problem. What is happening to me???
TTC since 2010
Me: 36, slightly elevated FSH. Everything else (hysterescopy, HSG, b/w) normal.
DH:30, with super sperm? >200mil post wash
BFP #1 - May 2011 - m/c @ 8weeks
IUI #1 - July 26 2012 - Femara = BFN
Suprise BFP Jan 15 2013. Hope this one sticks!
From what I can tell so far, the people who are waiting on gifts, have gifts in the mail. It's just being slow getting to them. That's what happens when you send it out on the very last day. Hopefully, that holds true.
Add me to this list, too. I consider myself agnostic, so I don't go to church unless I want to appease my mom. This year all she asked for for Christmas was for me to go to Christmas Eve service with her.
I confess that I'm relieved my sister isn't coming out here for Christmas. I love her dearly, but she's a selfish drama llama, and I don't have the patience for it. I'll see her when I go back home with my mom, but for Christmas Day, I'm glad it's just mom, bro and niece who will be here. Aaaand I feel really guilty for even typing that...
It's not my sister, but I am dreading the drama of this weekend. K is already wishing the holiday past because he doesn't want to deal with his family. Very thankful that we'll be with my family on Christmas day...and that next year we'll be staying home with the jelly bean...
I also confess that I love working from home. I'm so much more relaxed...and productive. Wishing I could do this more often.
I confess that I had no idea what to buy my sister for Christmas, so I got her gift certificates. I feel so guilty, like the gift had no effort put into it, but she is SO hard to shop for and we are SO different from each other I just totally ran out of ideas.
I also confess that I have done ZERO work today so far. My office ordered out for lunch and I volunteered to handle everything to avoid sitting at my desk - I may even go pick it up at the restaraunt just for an excuse to get out of the office.
steff--about church--people go when the feel like they need or want to go. that doesn't make them bad people. i dont think it is fair to judge people for this. also, i go to church (bad jew!) on christmas eve. thats it. i obviously dont go for the religious part (again, jew) but i love the songs and the sense of community and spirit that a christmas eve service has. in old rural new england, our churches are all over 200 years old. there is history in them. it feels like a historical peaceful community that i like to be a part of once and awhile. i dont care about the christianity of it, and i am not at all religious (dont believe in god, i know, flameworthy) and therefore i dont attend church on the reg. but christmas eve mass feels different. it isnt preaching about religion, it is the story of an important holiday in our culture.
confession: i called in sick to work today because i couldnt fall asleep until 4 am. had company over. stayed up and visited. then couldnt sleep. and said company said if i called in sick today that he would take me out for lunch and cocktails today
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Christmas Eve service was one of the few church services that I liked attending when I was little - for me it seemed like it was more about family and the fact that everyone was together. As long as people aren't coming in pretending to be super religious 3x per year, I don't see anything wrong with it - holiday services are usually really beautiful and I think people can worship the rest of the year however they choose, if they want. And it's a very valid point that a lot of people are forced to go to church on holidays. It's a big fight in DH's house every year, and every year he stays home on Christmas eve and his mom is crying in her room beforehand, as if she didn't expect it to turn out that way (FWIW, she only goes 3x a year...)
The SS thing seems to be ok, from where I'm standing. A few people have admitted to sending gifts last Thursday or Friday, so it's reasonable that those recipients haven't gotten them yet, especially with all the delivery services being really busy right now. Sure, if it turns out that some people really didn't send them, then that sucks, but I think we're putting the cart before the horse. There weren't that many participants this year and it seemed to be more legit. Last year there were a lot of people I'd never heard of who came out of the woodwork.
As Alicia said, I'm willing to get a present for someone if their SS flaked. So Jen, send me a PM/E-mail if that's the case.
This, plus it is getting really irritating. Yes we know that you haven't gotten your gift yet and there is no need to post it fifty times.
I am beginning to hate Christmas. My dad still isn't home yet, but he might be home by the weekend. MIL is pissed at me because I will not come to Christmas Eve services at her church or come to their house that night. She is also mad that we won't come over Christmas morning. I'm sorry that I am treasuring my family traditions while they last. Christmas Eve we all go to my Grandma's house, she is 84 and who knows how much longer we will be doing this. On Christmas day my nieces and nephews come over after they open their presents at their homes and we make pancakes, cinnamon rolls, pecan rolls, and all the fixings. My nieces and nephews are 15 and 16 so pretty soon this tradition will end. I am thinking about just sending DH to their house and not even going over there at all. Oh and she was mad that we aren't buying each other gifts this year....like it is her business.
I would consider just sending my DH over there, too. We're sort of lucky that my family lives so far away that we don't really have to worry about splitting the holidays, but if we were in this situation we've discussed the possibility of spending part of the holidays apart if necessary (like if two traditions are happening at the same time).
Also, it's definitely not her business if you're not exchanging gifts. I'd be tempted to tell her that my gift to DH was some sexy lingerie and he was getting steamy sex later on.
YES! And in light of this, I find it so annoying when people DD - we already saw the post, and deleting doesn't make us forget about it.
09.25.10
This totally!
I so badly wanted to point this out but didn't want to start anything. Particularly when one SS noted that she'd been terribly ill for over a week and unable to get out of bed...way to make her feel even worse for sending the gift on the deadline.
Amen sistas!
I feel the exact same way!
I second all of the above.
For the record though, I think it's ok to get called out a little, but I want to make it clear that no one is "picking" on anyone here. It would be a shame to let this turn into a bigger deal than it is.
SS is about sharing the LOVE!
and I do love you girlies.
TTC since 2010
Me: 36, slightly elevated FSH. Everything else (hysterescopy, HSG, b/w) normal.
DH:30, with super sperm? >200mil post wash
BFP #1 - May 2011 - m/c @ 8weeks
IUI #1 - July 26 2012 - Femara = BFN
Suprise BFP Jan 15 2013. Hope this one sticks!
Yes, yes, yes. I hesitated to even write it, because the last thing I wanted was for this to turn into a flamefest. But it was bugging me and I felt bad for the people who sent gifts that haven't gotten received yet, plus this is a confession/rant/etc thread.
But for sure, I don't mean it as a personal attack, more like an observation that I've been biting my tongue over for a while.
This too. I just couldn't bite my tongue anymore, especially after the DD.
This times a million.
Not really a confession but an AW-- I get to read at 4 pm Christmas Eve Mass at our church
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ETA: actually after reading farther down in the post I realized that I wanted to say that I confess that I would really like to help change some people's hearts about they way they feel about going to church. It really isn't a bad thing and I don't know WHERE it ever went wrong for some of you. My church isn't 100% but I know, at the end of the day, that my Creator loves me so much. I just wish there was a way to share how GREAT God is w/o coming off as a Bible Thumping B*tch
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Datsyuks & Ferdy- We Go Together Like...
The last time my mother FORCED me to go to mass, the priest gave a sermon about questioning faith and religion.
He said that if you hadn't questioned faith and come up with a reason to worship /go to church/whatever then you're only following someone's instructions and it was a waste of time.
He also said that if you had questioned faith and decided you don't believe then guess what, coming to church is also a waste of time.
That was the only time I was ever happy to be in church.
It's not for me. I went every week until I was 18. The reality is, I don't think there is anything you can say to convince a person otherwise. It's something they have to discover and decide to accept for themselves.
TTC since 2010
Me: 36, slightly elevated FSH. Everything else (hysterescopy, HSG, b/w) normal.
DH:30, with super sperm? >200mil post wash
BFP #1 - May 2011 - m/c @ 8weeks
IUI #1 - July 26 2012 - Femara = BFN
Suprise BFP Jan 15 2013. Hope this one sticks!
Datsyuks & Ferdy- We Go Together Like...
This has apparently turned into a why I do/don't go to church session (which is cool!). So I'll add my two cents now that I actually have time. I went to Catholic school for 13 years (K-12) and throughout grade school was extremely active in community service. I was an altar server and in the choir. In high school, I wanted the weekend to relax and was often dragged to church. One homily really resonated where the priest basically said most people go to church to be seen going to church. Between that and some personal things, I became a Christmas/Easter attendee to make my mother happy. I also have issues with the church as a whole (the institution, not faith). I admit there are times I miss the community feeling from childhood, but much of that was tinged with being judged for how much you volunteer outside church. So it has it's drawbacks. That's my experience - if you had/have better, I'm happy for you. But I do what works for me.
Regarding SS, much of what I'd like to say has already been said. Assuming the people I paged, correspond to who I think they do (I don't know people's real names and at this point, I really should!), it looks like everyone has received a gift, OR it's currently in the mail system and should arrive soon. As soon as I get confirmation of this, I will let you know.