June 2009 Weddings
Lucy Elizabeth 10.27.12
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Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
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Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
Positivity fail
I think I was able to feel semi optimistic about my SAHW status thinking I had a good lead on a job I wanted. Now I'm not seeing many silver linings. Can you guys remind me of the good things of my layoff?
I'm so bored not having a daily purpose. :-/
Lucy Elizabeth 10.27.12
Re: Positivity fail
Opportunity to expand on your cooking skills. I suggest Hawki's blog for inspiration.
Opportunity to work on new marketing strategies for your wedding planning job.
Opportunity to become a gym rat.
Opportunity to start studying dog breeds and rescues in your area so that you'll be better prepared when W cashes in that coupon!
My Bio (wedding pics added 7/6)
My 101
Morning, mames!
I've got some advice, but in case you forgot (or anyone else wants a quick update) here's my story: I finished my Master's in Lit. I applied to MFA programs in Creative Writing and won't hear decisions until Spring sometime. I've always wanted to be a full-time writer (both freelancing "tech writing" and writing my own fiction/plays). DH and I decided to give it a try, so now he's our only income and I'm jumping head first into the abyss...
Okay, as a fellow somewhat-unexpectedly-SAHW-er, here's what I can say about this:
First, the good things: Have a household project you've been wanting to finish? A craft you wanted to try? A stack of cheesy chick flicks you wanted to watch (or watch again)? A friend you want to have a nice long phone call with or see for lunch? A book you've been dying to read? Guess what, you've got time for ALL of that now and then some
Granted, this also means you've got time to do crap like "dust the tops of all the shelves/bookcases" and "deep clean the kitchen" which is not good...but mix that mess in with the good stuff (the other day I spent four hours cleaning and then spent the rest of the afternoon knitting and watching old *Gilmore Girls* episodes).
Now, here's how you give yourself a "purpose":
1) Get Dressed in the morning. Nothing adds to the sloth-y, dismal feeling of being in your PJs all day. Sure, it's nice for the first three or four days (or while you're in "vacation" mode), but it gets old. Quick. And makes you tired, lazy, and sad.
2) Make a schedule/Treat it like a job. Being a SAHW and job hunting IS your job now. Show up to work. You have a three-four hour meeting with Monster.com (or whatever). During this meeting you can edit your resume, create sample work, research companies, practice your interview tips, shop for an interview outfit (okay, maybe not everyone will agree with that one, but I think it's good...)...Then, you've got to get to your job as "housewife." Run through the chores for a few hours, including any errands you need to run. Once all that is done, you should be back doing YOU stuff -- in front of your computer working on your blog (A-HEM!), checking e-mails, Nesting, etc, or in front of the TV, or curled up with a book, or meeting a friend. You can do this in any order and break things up (an hour of work stuff, an hour of chores, an hour of "Mames-time").
3) Look Forward. You thought you had the perfect job. Well, if it had been perfect for you, you would have it. They didn't pick you, so clearly (a) they're insane, and (b) it wasn't the perfect job. There's going to be something out there for you -- another company, perhaps, or a new career direction. Now you've got time to play with your options. Make pro/con lists. Do lots of research. Think about your bigger dreams/goals. Think of this "time off" as a blessing rather than a burden. I know financial it may be sucky, and I totally understand that (TRUST ME) but there will be a big payoff for scrimping/sacrificing now.
If all else fails, tell W you just wanna stay home forever and have hundreds of babies.
Leigha - it's sick how much you know me. Those are all on my list!!
SBS, I think you should just cancel your MFA apps and be a life coach. Sidenote, your post in my WWJ9D made me cry!
Getting dressed every day? :-/ I hate wearing real clothes. Haha.
Thanks so much for the advice. I'm going to refer to this like 5x a day!
Lucy Elizabeth 10.27.12
Casual every day is just fine! But yeah, ditch the pjs.
My Bio (wedding pics added 7/6)
My 101
Does it make it any better my SAHW uniform is not technically PJs... but oversized sweats that I may or may not sleep in?
Probably not.
Lucy Elizabeth 10.27.12
My Bio (wedding pics added 7/6)
My 101
SBS, no judgements here!
I do shower everyday and today I managed to don a clean shirt and hoodie. I made myself brunch, checked job postings, and I plan on finishing wrapping gifts by the time my friend comes over this evening.
Plans. I haz 'em.
Lucy Elizabeth 10.27.12
Agree with PP about keeping a schedule.
How about a trip to Minne? That would be a good use of time