Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
Unpopular Opinion Thursday
Yes, it's the holidays but I'm sure something's bugging someone.
Here's mine: I have some students who placed in an honor band back at the beginning of November. I have heard nothing about the music, expecting it to be sent to me at the school. It wasn't. Fast forward to this morning when I emailed another director. He got an email on the 14th explaining how to get the music online. I checked all my emails from that day and the surrounding days; nothing. On the 15th I emailed the secretary about it and she said she had no idea. WTF? So, I get the music and forward the login information to the dad of the two boys so they can practice. This is a small honor band for kids from small schools and they are playing a piece that the All-State band is playing and they didn't get the music until today. Evidently another director told the lady in charge that the music was too hard, and she told him off. Awesome. That's who I want my students working with.
I certainly got the email with the invoice, though. They make sure to get their money.
My opinion: I'm all for technology until you screw it up and the students are the ones who suffer because of your ineptitude. I also don't like people who teach at the collegiate level who act like they are somehow "better" and know your students' abilities better because they wrote a dissertation about a piece of music.
Re: Unpopular Opinion Thursday
I do not understand mothers who wait until Dec. 23rd to start attempting to get a picture with Santa at the mall. I side eye you for making your child absolutely miserable while you wait in line at the mall for an hour. This is why we get our Santa pics done in November--or we just keep the free one from MDO and call it good. I am not about to attempt to make my child stand in line like that when he's two. He'd be far more happy coloring and playing with his toys in our cozy living room with the Christmas tree lit up.
Okay, here's a thought. STOP asking people when they're going to get pregnant. Even if it's going to be their second one, it's none of your damn business. B doesn't need a brother or a sister to get by in life, yes I realize that everyone that had a kid around the same time as I did is pregnant or just had their second one, and no, I don't give a sh!t. I'm not ready, and I don't know if I'll ever be. I told the lady at a store in my hometown that I wasn't anywhere near ready and she says: Well, my daughter is due in March (our kids are the same age) and I just figured you'd be ready by now--you've had two and a half years!
I agree to both. We have never done pictures with Santa until this year and that was only because we were downtown and had time to kill and Bass Pro does them for free. M hated Santa. She hit him in the face when they snapped the picture.
And on the baby thing...I HATED getting that question after V was born. Finally a guy had asked so many times I told him that we had been trying for a year and we just weren't getting pregnant. He stopped asking after that.
double post
I really don't like exchanging gifts for the holidays. I feel like I am buying people things they don't really need or want becuase we are all adults and if we need or want something we pretty much get it. I would much rather take that money and buy gifts for people who don't have to think for a week about what they want for Christmas because they really need a winter jacket or shoes without holes or something (and the same goes for people buying me gifts, spend the money on someone who really needs it). This does not go for kids though. I like to buy them gifts.
We also don't donate any extra around the holidays. If anything we probably donate less because I feel like people forget that other people need stuff in say June, so I would rather donate then when there isn't an influx of giving.
1. When people ask when/if you're getting married and you say you have no plans, I don't understand why the next logical question has to be when you're going to have babies. If I'm in a committed relationship, where do you get off thinking that I want to have babies before getting married? I have no problem with what order people do things, but I just don't see the logic in the question.
2. BF's mother emailed and asked to borrow some money. BF didn't check his email for a few days, so before he got a chance to even respond, the mother leaves a voicemail basically saying nevermind and that she hopes he finds jesus some day. WTF? Although he would've given her whatever she needed, he's not now b/c of her demeaning comment. Now his brother is going to lend her the money and he'll look like the perfect church-going selfless son. Good for him, but we'll never hear the end of it from her.
H and I were just saying that last night. Plus it's almost turned into just exchanging gift cards. Very few people actually go out and think about what to buy someone without asking them what they want. I drew my aunt's name, and I didn't ask her what she wanted. I just went out and bought stuff I thought she'd like. Well, she really liked all her gifts and that was WAY more fun for me than just buying someone a gift card.
I think the song "I Want a Hippopotamus for Christmas" is probably one of the worst songs ever created by mankind.
There, I said it.
my bookshelf!
Bloggy
Agreed. My favorite Christmas shopping is for adopt-a-family/Angel Tree people. My sister and I are better off than our parents, and we're able to buy whatever we need/want during the year. I would be happy with just little stocking stuffers from them. DH and I exchanged 1 gift with each other this year. We just do cards for birthdays and anniversaries.
I am SO GLAD you are not finding out the sex of the baby! Thanks to technology, there are very few surprises left in the world - I love that you all are keeping this one. Yay!
I agree! I love when people wait to find out the sex. DH and I definitely are planning on waiting to find out. It seems like such an awesome surprise!
Kaylee & Cole 06.14.08
8/6/11 First 5k! OG&E Expo Run 34:47
9/3/11 Brookhaven Run 5k 34:18
9/17/11 Healthy Sooners Fun Run 5k 33:38
10/15/11 Susan G. Komen Race for the Cure 33:31
10/29/11 Monster Dash 5k 32:06 PR!
11/11/11 Veteran's Day Run 11k in Dallas 1:13:15 Instant PR!
1/28/12 Texas Half Marathon 2:38:03 Instant PR!
3/25/12 Earlywine Dash
LMAO!!! That song is so annoying!
I'm not sure about how popular this is here, but it seems to be unpopular with the general public. We are not "doing" Santa with DS. I think imagination is great, and DS definitely has a big imagination. But I also think that it's important that kids understand the difference between make-believe and reality, and I have come to believe that I would be doing him a disservice by essentially lying to him, and especially by trying to convince him that something I know to be imaginary is actually real. I just went with the flow and "did" Santa with DD. Now that she knows Santa isn't real, I think she kind of resents the whole thing, and she is actually all in favor of us not continuing the same tradition with DS. We still encourage him to learn about the story of Santa and read Santa books, watch movies, etc. We are explaining that the story of Santa is about giving and talking about how we can be like Santa for our loved ones and those in need.
I was in the thrift store the other day and DS said something about Santa coming to our house. I said, "That's just a story, buddy. Santa doesn't REALLY come to our house." (There were no other kids in the store.) Another woman who was shopping looked at me like I was the meanest mom ever.
I think it's a great idea! Friends of ours are prego and not finding out. Not only is it exciting but when you have a shower your guests can focus more on diapers, cribs, etc instead of 10 million pink or blue outfits that can only be worn for a couple of months. I am not pregnant, but when we do decide to have a child we don't want to find out either.
I'm with ya, sister! We didn't find out the sex with any of our kids and I love not knowing. It is such a awesome surprise! I loved that when I was laying on the operating table during V's birth, I was looking at H's face as he watched him coming out and all of a sudden his eyes got really big and he shouted "I see a penis! I see a penis!" It was fabulous!
we don't "do" Santa either. V knows who Santa is if he sees his picture or whatever, but we tell him he is just a person dressed up in a costume. We never did Santa as a kid either. And in all honesty, the whole idea of some guy sneaking in my house at night while I am sleeping (since he knows when I am sleeping and knows when I'm awake) totally freaks me out!
DH and I aren't finding out the sex either and ppl have been giving me *** about it non stop. I really don't care that other people want to know the sex, its our baby and we want it to be a surprise so that is what we're doing. I'm doing the nursery in white, eggshell and brown and when they're first born they really just wear those one piece things so its just not that big of a deal to me.
I like the idea of children knowing about Santa but not believing in him. I want to be that way when we have a child. Same thing with the easter bunny and tooth fairy. I remember being a child and finding out that Santa was not real was a major let down and pointless.
Amanda--that's almost exactly what I told my sister, I'd much rather get diapers, bibs, etc than a million pink/blue outfits. Glad some others are on the same page as me