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After having our daughter, I hit a real slump in the sex department. I'll admit, I made DH go a really, REALLY long time without sex. I already had a very low sex drive to begin with and then add baby/breastfeeding on top of that... there was absolutely no sex drive. He was so supportive and loving through these really hard times. We are starting to see a little bit of normalcy in our lives again... so I'm trying to bring a solid level of intimacy back. So far, things are going really good. Although, I'd love to try something a bit different. I'm looking for some toy suggestions... something we can use to spice it up a bit and have fun together. What are your (and his) favorites? Also, I've heard of different lotions you can use to increase arousal but I'm not sure where to start. I'm definitely new to all this stuff so any ideas are appreciated.
BFP #1 (DS, 10/98), BFP #2 (DD, 10/09)
BFP #3 -mm/c @ 7wks, discovered at 9wks, D&C 9/28

Current Status: TTA
~~PGAL/PAL Always Welcome!~~
Re: Do you play with toys?
I would say definitely don't discount some of the less expensive toys which can bring alot of pleasure for both of you. If you like clitoral stimulation, you might want to check out the screaming "O" line of toys which can be purchased at most nice adult stores, as well as online everywhere. In particular they make a number of surprisingly good vibrating *** rings with a piece that vibrates and rubs on your clit as he pushes against you. Ou favorite from this line is the one that has the *** ring along with a second attached ring that goes around his balls. There is a little pleasure stud in between the two which vibrates against his balls while the top pleasure stud vibrates against your clit, and it only costs about $10 and the batteries are replaceable, thought they last a good while. 10,000 times better than the cheap disposable ones sold under the Trojan and KY brands in drug stores.
Now, one thing we've gotten to like lately are the hand blown glass, and I hate this wod, dildos. They can be heated or cooled just by dropping them in water, and you really get to see everything kind of going in and out as its being used. Kind of fun for the both of you.
Good luck!
My next toy purchase will be a glass blown "dildo" However a must for any couple are bullets. They are small bullet looking vibrators that you can use on him or vice versa. C-Rings are a great investment too! You want to spend the extra for the wireless though! I hate the wires drives me nuts!
Happy "sexy-time"!!!
Did you know they sell the glass blown ones on etsy.com. I was shocked browsing some category of handmade glass looking for a vase and up pops a whole line of glass dildos. They were actually beautiful!
BFP #3 -mm/c @ 7wks, discovered at 9wks, D&C 9/28
Current Status: TTA
~~PGAL/PAL Always Welcome!~~
This is my ULTIMATE fave toy-
Made by passion parties, I have the turtle. LOVE IT!! You can order it online, don't have to have a party to get one.
Im not big on the toys in bed with us, but i did find a fun bath like sponge with a little vib. in it and got to say shower sex is pretty Great with it! as far as lotions and creams go I must say that passions parties has some of our Favorites they have one called Pure Satisfaction you both can use it a little goes a long way! its an arousal gel so it gives you a tingle down there, defiantly gets you in the mood. next favorite is called 'nipple nibblers' it's great for lots of nibbling in many places! and comes in Great flavors!! best part if work for both of you! last on our list is there "fireworks lotion it's for bjs and what not (he REALLY LIKES IT)...it's got a warming sensation for him, and it kinda makes doing that dead a little easier for you with the tingle it gives off (helps numb your mouth) and has a GREAT flavor!!!! best part you can order the stuff online with out having to have a party! you can also make a trip to your local sex shop and check things out together and find things that both you are willing to try.
Along this same idea...we have a balm called "Rocket Balm" which can be rubbed on either him or her. It gives a cooling sensation and helps make the climax SOOO enjoyable for both of us. It makes things cooler the more friction that is going on. Very handy! I've also been looking for something that will help make "doing that dead" a little more enjoyable for me. Thanks!