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IHO Hef and Crystal, may/december romances
so, i just read on jezebel that Hef got engaged on Christmas Eve to a 24 year old playmate. while i realize this is an EXTREME may/december case, i'm curious as to your thoughts on them in general.
1. do you think people with sizable age differences can REALLY be in love?
2. what do you consider a "normal" or "acceptable" age difference and when do you think "whoa!"?
3. would you think differently if the couple put a pre-nup in place? (meaning, would it lessen your thought that the person was a gold digger?)
Re: IHO Hef and Crystal, may/december romances
jack | born 9.13.12 at 40w4d | 9 lbs 12 oz | 23 in
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Judging
1. I think that they can - at a certain age. Do I think that an 15 year old can be in love with a 30 year old? Heck no! (and that is really freaking gross to me anyway). 25 and 40 - still gives me the creeps a little but not as bad. 30 and 45 - no problem to me whatsoever. Odd huh?
2. I think when people are younger, the age gap that is fine by me is smaller than when they're older. Maybe it has to do with life experience? I guess I've never explored that line of thought before.
3. Not a bit. If a person the age of Heff is engaged to a person the age of the bunny - I would probably never say it was about the money in the first place. It is about the teeny package he's getting and what he's getting out of it if ya get my drift.
one of DH's cousins is newly 19 and is dating someone who is 28. That age gap grosses me out too (but then again, I can't stand the guy in the first place so it isn't an entirely fair assessment to begin with which I'll admit.)
i completely agree that holly got hosed. she genuinely seemed to care about hef and imo, he never treated her well. shame on her for staying for so long and shame on hef for "using" her until something better came along. the playboy mansion is just one big house of wrong.
She and I have the same birthday, therefore I love her.
Judging
This is my mindset. My H and I are 8 years apart (nothing compared to a "real" may/december relationship) but when I think about the fact that when I was born, he was a second grader--grosses me out. We met when I was 25, and even then I was a little weirded out that he was so old. The older we get, I don't notice the age gap as much.
Like other posters, I feel so bad for Holly. I'd be pissed if my boyfriend had told me he never wanted to get married and then as soon as I was out of the picture, found some new young bimbo to marry. But then again, Holly isn't going to be married to an 84 year old penis. I think she wins.
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I think it's Holly being a bit insecure, combined with really caring about him, combined with her not having enough self respect to realize that she deserves to be treated better than he treated her. Add to the mix the fact that Hef did take advantage of how far she'd be willing to go for him (in many ways, the sex, the other girls, the waiting and waiting for him) and IMO, taking advantage of her insecurities or her lack of self respect.
I'm going to say that it seems gross and superficial, but if Clint Eastwood came along and wanted me to be his wife, I don't know that I could resist what I would consider to be his charm.
I do think the whole playboy mansion lifestyle is one that is gross. a total novelty, and for any woman, the appeal of it should be short lived, if at all.
jack | born 9.13.12 at 40w4d | 9 lbs 12 oz | 23 in
my puppy loves - chloe & jenson
pregnancy blog | chart
I agree with Melinda.
I'm sure 95% of the motivation on his part is to drum up publicity for his magazine that is in the toilet and 95% on her part is to get publicity for her "career". I am highly skeptical there is true romantic love involved.
I have no clue about Hef and whatshername or anything involving that scene, but I do echo my dad's wife's reaction to it: "Wow, there must be a lot of little blue pills around that house!"
And speaking of my dad's wife - she is 14 years younger than my father and closer in age (by half!) to my brother than to my father. It is a little strange to think about, but my father hardly is your typical 63 year old and is closer in maturity to a frat boy at times, so I guess the pairing works. Before he met his wife he was dating women who were YOUNGER than my brother (so under 40 at the time) and had children the same age as his grandchildren. THAT was a little uncomfortable and I flat out told him it was gross.
I totally agree with this too. Why would Heff want to get married again after all these years unless there's another reason behind it?