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Anniversary cake question
I don't know what board this would question would belong on - maybe I'll post on (P&)E if I can't find an answer here.
Mom's throwing us an anniversary party for our immediate families - 12 people total - on our actual anniversary. Yay! She's have it catered from our favorite restaurant. Yum!
Now the angry part - we've been fighting over this for over a month - what to do with the top tier of our wedding cake. I say it's only meant for the bride and groom and that H and I will politely eat a couple bites (since it's probably going to taste nasty) and there should be a fresh and delicious dessert for everyone else.
Mom says when it was her's and Dad's first ann. they had a party and EVERYONE ate the year old cake. She said it wasn't that bad. She wants everyone to eat our top tier and she'll also have a plate of cookies, too.
Aside from the fact that the top tier probably isn't big enough to get 12 slices out of, I seriously hate her idea. It's been keeping me up at night! Dad apparently agrees with her and H and I can't get anyone on our side. I think it's rude to serve year old cake as essentially the only dessert.
Does anyone know if the top tier is traditionally only for the bride and groom, or is it for anyone who happens to be there on the anniversary?
Re: Anniversary cake question
i've never heard of an anny party...interesting..
i dont know what the etiquette is, but if i were a guest at a party i wouldn't want to eat a piece of year old cake. bleh. besides that, i would totally feel that it's for the couple (let's face it, none of us are brides & grooms anymore). we'll order our anny cake from our baker this week and damned if i'm going to cut a slice for anyone else! it's our anny, our cake, go get your own cake on your own anny!
All of this, I like the bolded idea.
And as a guest, I would be sad my only dessert is year old cake.
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Ditto everyone else on both counts - never having heard of a first year anniversary party OR sharing the top tier of your wedding cake with anyone but your H and not wanting to eat old cake as a guest.
Maybe you can get the replica of the top tier of the cake and tell your mom it's the old one all thawed out??
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I think we're going to go order a cake this afternoon if we have time after the DMV. It's not a huge blowout anniversary party, it's just dinner with our parents, siblings and grandparents. If we had moved by now it wouldn't be happening and none of this would be a problem.
We talked to mom about it yesterday and she just got up and walked away, gave me the cold shoulder for the rest of the day. I haven't seen her yet today, so I don't know if she's over it. She claims dad was REALLY looking forward to a piece of cake.
For God's sake, if he wants a piece that bad, the bakery is only a fifteen minute drive away and you can buy a slice in the same flavor as our wedding cake for five bucks and it would be a hell of a lot fresher. He could have done this multiple times during the year if he wanted.
Sometimes I wonder about these people... lol.
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I agree that it is bizarre that she wants to share that cake with everyone so badly. I feel strongly that our top tier is OURS, and no one else can have it. We barely got to eat a bite of our wedding cake at our wedding, so I've been looking forward to it all year. Even if I wasn't sentimental about it, I wouldn't serve it to others because who knows if it will really be any good anymore. As a guest, I certainly wouldn't want to eat someone else's year-old wedding cake.
DH and I don't live near family, but we are planning on celebrating by getting a hotel room at the place where we had our wedding and eating a nice dinner across the street. Then the next morning we'll eat our cake in bed for breakfast!
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well, we ate our top cake after one week last year. It was frozen for that one week, and it tasted like crap then. we also sharred it with our families.
personally, if i was going to a party, i would not want to eat frozen cake. period.