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lame.
Part of me is bothered by this and the other part of me doesn?t really care at all.
Here is a little back story . . .
H has a good friend who has a birthday on New Years Eve. Every year they have a big birthday/NYE party. It?s the kind of party where most people get way too drunk, people pass out on the floor, and someone always gets peed on. Last year, H said that would be the last one we go to bc he wants to start spending NYE as a family and just doing something with Aiden. He has mentioned this many times, even just a few weeks ago.
Well, now he says he wants to go. It is his friend?s 30th birthday and I understand it is a big deal. At first he said he was just going to go to the party for a few hours and them come spend the rest of the night with us. Then a couple days ago he said he was going to bring a pillow and blanket to the party and just spend the night. Then yesterday he said Friday afternoon he is going to have lunch with another friend since he leaves for the army soon. Then when he gets back from lunch I would drop him off at the NYE party and then pick him up the next day. So Now I will only see him for an hour or 2 that day.
Part of it bothers me bc he is changing all his plans and wont be around at all for NYE. But the other part of me doesn?t even care if he is around or not. Aiden and I might go to a friend?s house (who also has kids) and have a little ?party? of our own. I haven?t said anything about this bc he doesn?t seem to really care. At least I will get to bring in the new year with my favorite guy either way!
Re: lame.
No, not really. He hasn't "blown up" in a little while though. Now he just sits and plays his video game and I hang out with Aiden. I'm trying to not let hos crap bother me so much.
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I'd drop him off at his sleep over party & 'forget' to pick him up. Maybe he'll be the one to get peed on. jk (sort of)
Really though, it sounds like a much better plan to go to your friend's house.
Here's to a better 2011 for you
All of this, especially the getting peed on part, haha.
I would feel the same way as you. It's rude that he's ditching you like this, but then again you'll have a better time without him anyway.
I LOL'd at jen's suggestions. That's exactly what I was thinking, too!
IMO, it's probably no different than your day-to-day interactions. Sounds like he does his thing and you do yours. I would go to your friend's house, let him participate in whatever debauchery at his party, and enjoy yourself.
Dropping him off and not picking him up will probably cause an argument between the two of you but it sounds like you need to get a few things off of your chest. You should definitely take Aiden out somewhere and have a good time. Don't let him know where you are going or what your plans are..... if he asks, just let him wonder. I hope you are able to enjoy your NYE and forget about what a jerk he is for one night
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I had to LOL at the getting peed on part too!!
But you are much nicer than I am. I would tell him he might want to pack some clothes and a toothbrush with his pillow and blanket. I guess I'm just a biitch.
Just curious, was it ever an option for you to get a babysitter and go to the party with H? You didn't mention it so I wasn't sure if you had no interest in going, weren't invited, or wanted to be with Aiden.
I am sorry that you are going through this
I think not picking him up is a bad idea, that will be a huge fight so if you are pissed and want to leave him to find his own ride, just tell him now. I think Chelsea's story is hilarious but a little bit different because she was at the party that night and warned him she was ready to go. It wasn't pre-meditated lol. I would sleep in a little and take Aiden to breakfast though 
If he wants to go to a 30 year olds sleepover then you shouldn't worry about rushing to pick him up!
Sorry Liz
That sucks that he is acting like he has no desire to hang out with you and Aiden.
If it were me, and that was my H, I would be telling him "Hell no you aren't going to a NYE party and leaving me with the baby that night. You are the kids father and I am not the free baby sitter who watches your kid while you out getting drunk."
While I don't know how the dynamics of your relationship actually work, I would be speaking up and telling him how you feel. I think if he is going to be doing anything on NYE, it should be with you and it should be something you have a desire to do.
GL!
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This is such a good line!
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We could have asked my MIL to watch Aiden for us like we did in the past. But I was under the impression we were going to spend it as a family and I liked the idea of spending it with Aiden. I?m sure I could ask her last min but I would rather spend the New Years with Aiden anyways!
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Well said Tasha! I also agree with several PP, you are way nicer than I am. I would never stand for his behaviorl
How do I feel about it? I just get so annoyed with him now that I would rather spend it with Aiden and not with H. I still wish he would try a little more though.
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Sadly, I don?t really think so. I do find myself feeling bad for him though, as odd as that may be. I keep picturing him sitting alone and being depressed if I did leave. But I know it is my life and I can?t just stay bc I feel bad for him. I just need to figure out what to do. It would be so much easier if I was done with school already.
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