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**Dana**
Tell me how you all did ferber with Xander. Dunc is having real sleep issues at night now... will not go down in his crib at all. First I thought it was ears, teeth, or hungry... but none of the three. I'm at a loss....
Re: **Dana**
::butting in:
We Ferbered our little guy. We read Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Baby and Ferber's books and decided to be consistent about his sleep. (we've slacked off on the consistency, though, and sometimes we lay him down asleep from nursing)
We established a drowsy-ifying routine before bed
We put him in his crib really really drowsy but awake (in the beginning we did)
We let him cry and checked on him in increasing intervals -- until we learned that checking on him only made him worse, so we'd only check on him once each time he woke up.
We stopped picking him up or feeding him in the middle of the night and made sure he continued to eat as much as he used to when he nursed at night
He got the hang of it really quickly (2-3 nights) when we were consistent, and he was 6 months old. But the sticking point was early morning waking, which eventually he kicked -- we would stick to our "no food," "no picking up" rule until 6am.
Of course, he reverted when he got sick traveling and we've been attempting to re-train ever since, but when he was on a roll, we had a blissful amount of sleep!
Good luck!
yes we ended up using the ferbered Xander. We gave him a full 11 months to figure out how to sleep through the night. It took about 3 weeks and we had set backs, colds, ear infection, molars cutting.
The first night he cried for an hour, we went in after 20 minutes each time. The second night we let him cry for 45 minutes straight. The third night was like 15 minutes and that was it. He still will wake up at night but he only cries for like 5 minutes and goes back to sleep. As long as he has his taggie blanket, and pacifier he's a happy baby.
Our routine now is easy, he plays until 9 most nights, but some nights he's ready at 830 for bed. I change his diaper one last time and then we turn the lights out in the room. He give him kisses, say we love him and goodnight. Then he's diving out of my arms into his bed with his taggie pillow. He lays on his belly, tucks his feet under his belly with his butt in the air and we put his blanket on him. He's really cute with his routine.
I must say if he wakes up at 4 or 5 on a work day I just get up and put him in bed with us. When he's sick he ends up sleeping part of the night with us too.
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