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Friend Lost her Baby
And I'm meeting her for lunch today.... To be honest, I am a little nervous. We met in high school, but she graduated early and I haven't seen her since then. We talked a little over FB, which is actually how I found out a lot of stuff in the last few months.
She has been in the army since graduating. She met her husband while they were overseas. They got pregnant last year and she was really excited to be a mommy. Unfortunately, their little girl was born premature. She spent the first 6 weeks of her life in the hospital. My friend went to the hospital every single day while she was there, and baby started getting stronger. At the 6 week mark, she finally came home. It seemed as though she was going to make it. On the day before her 10 week birthday, she sat up, but early the next morning she died. All of this was shared via FB. I saw the news and was as shocked as everyone else. I know my friend is still very upset about all of this, but I don't know if I should approach the subject, wait for her to say something or not... I've never had this happen to a friend before. What do you girls think? I would really appreciate any insight you could share.
Re: Friend Lost her Baby
It is so horrible that your friend lost her child. I can't even begin to imagine what that would feel like. She is lucky to have some good friends to help her threw this time.
I wouldn't bring it up. Your friend may see your get together as a way to get her baby off her mind so bringing it up could be bad. Though, if your friend brings it up, don't hesitate then to talk about it. People just grieve differently. For some, talking about it is the best therapy for them. For others, the constant thought of it could end up making things worse. Good luck!
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that is so unbelievably sad
i would agree with the rest of the girls, dont bring it up, but if she wants to talk about it, be open to doing so. there's nothing wrong with letting her know (once she brings it up) that you're there to listen and you are so sorry for everything that happened.
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Such a horribly sad thing for your friend to be dealing with. I'll keep her in my thoughts!
It was about a month and a half ago. You're right, I should get her address. Even if I'm late, I can still send a card. Thanks for the suggestion.
Thank you for the thoughts and prayers for her
! I am sorry about your dad. I'm sure that was very hard.