Those who changed your name - feelings?

pondering_gal · December 2010

So we went to the Social Security office yesterday, and on the way there I was feeling a little sad. As happy as I am to be married to my DH and be a family, I was feeling sad that I was no longer going to have my old last name.

I LOVED my last name. I loved saying it, spelling it, writing it. It has 2 syllables, my new name only has one.

I was absolutely set that I didn't want to keep my last name or hyphinate it, and DH certainly didn't pressure me, so I made the decision on my own.

I'm fine now, but on the way there was just a little sad.
Did this happen to anyone else or am I just crazy?

teddidan · December 2010

I feel the same exact way.... I loved that my name was so long, it was 3 syllables, and now I only have 1. I loved that it was so hispanic. I fully embrace my background and the fact that I am hispanic, but I certainly don't look it. I loved showing popele my lisence saying, yep! I'm hispanic! By blood and not by marriage!

Now I have the whitest last name ever! Lol!

bklyn10910 · December 2010

I was absolutely thrilled to change my name. My dad has been an abusive jerk my whole life, and now he's disowned me because I refused to let him walk me down the aisle, so I'm doubly glad to drop his name.

It's so nice to marry into a loving, honorable family. I'm so happy to have my husband's last name now.

Anabeth420 · December 2010

I feel the same as Maureen, good-effin-riddance. All my old last name held for me was ties to a sh!thead who didn't deserve me, and who certainly didn't deserve my love.

jena.n.ross · December 2010

The only thing I don't like about changing my last name is actually doing it. Credit cards, school loans, work, banks, etc etc.

I love being a Mrs. Newlastname.

RavenBeautie · December 2010

I love my new name! My Maiden Name was Danielle Nell. I'm super releived that my name doesn't rhyme anymore!

A.a.A. · December 2010

jena.n.ross:
The only thing I don't like about changing my last name is actually doing it. Credit cards, school loans, work, banks, etc etc.
I love being a Mrs. Newlastname.

this.

I love my new last name - wayy shorter than my maiden name and I like my new initials (AAA). Plus H is the only one who is going to carry on his family name, so I like that part about it. I have three brothers and a bunch of male cousins who will carry on the M-name

hz80408 · December 2010

A.a.A.:
jena.n.ross:

The only thing I don't like about changing my last name is actually doing it. Credit cards, school loans, work, banks, etc etc.

I love being a Mrs. Newlastname.

this.

I love my new last name - wayy shorter than my maiden name and I like my new initials (AAA). Plus H is the only one who is going to carry on his family name, so I like that part about it. I have three brothers and a bunch of male cousins who will carry on the M-name

Same for us! Plus my maiden name was hyphenated, so too add a 3rd last name would have been way too much.

I'm happy to ditch the hyphen completely. Plus my new last name starts with Ha just like Hannah, so I'm Hannah Ha____ and I love the way it sounds and saying it is SO much easier than a mouthful of Hannah Zm__--__(2nd original last name)

october010bride · December 2010

The way your feeling now is the same reason why I haven't changed my name yet... I just can't let it go.

Maybe over February break I'll get it done? Who knows.

maheard · December 2010

I think its totally normal to feel the way you are feeling. I was totally fine with changing my name. Mike didn't pressure me and was fine if I decided not to.

I was good until the lady at the SS office had me double check everything. I think I blacked out for a good 20 seconds..lol...

It gets easier. I think I just had to tell myself I was still Montana regardless of what my last name is. :-)

EmDizzle · December 2010

I'm still having trouble with this. I've gone from long-hard-to-spell Slovak last name to long-hard-to-spell German last name. But I'm not an ounce German. I'm half Slovak. Whelp.

The Slovak half of my family holds their heritage and traditions with an iron fist. Really the only thing that's allowed me to change it is that other women in the family have changed their name too, but their *still* Slovak... I just have to remember that (errrr, but I loved showing it off, lol).

Being a woman in science/research has also made it tough. 9 out of 10 woman colleagues/peers that I can think of this moment did not change their name when they married. When I did change it, these women all had a subtle shocked-ness in their response when they found out. Boo. Thanks for making it easier.

AlwaysABridesmaid... · December 2010

I was really really sad and still kind of am. I love that I am married and I love having his name, but I do really miss mine. My dad used to call me Danielley Martinelleyyyy (first name is Danielle) and I called hin when we got back from the honeymoon and he said "Hey danielley...oh, (insert new last name). I was really sad. I told him he could still call me that and then I got off the phone and cried. Totally irrational, but it's like something that was your for so long is changed!

teddidan · December 2010

AlwaysABridesmaid...:
I was really really sad and still kind of am. I love that I am married and I love having his name, but I do really miss mine. My dad used to call me Danielley Martinelleyyyy (first name is Danielle) and I called hin when we got back from the honeymoon and he said "Hey danielley...oh, (insert new last name). I was really sad. I told him he could still call me that and then I got off the phone and cried. Totally irrational, but it's like something that was your for so long is changed!

I totally teard up when I read this! Lol...

I know what you mean. My sister and I were always known as the "oldlastname" sisters... and she just got married in April (to a hispanic so she got to keep the hispanic) and then someone posted on our facebook the other day "I'm sad, the ___ sister's aren't the ___ sisters anymore".... and I was like yes we are!!!! I got really sad!!

alecat9 · December 2010

I was really conflicted and ultimately opted to just add my maiden name to my middle name and take DH's as my last. Consequently, my legal name is pretty long but it isn't often I have to write the entire thing out. It is still a little weird but it also makes me happy to hear my new last name. I am one of three girls and my father has no brothers so it made the name change a bit more bittersweet. My dad is definitely not someone whose name I was ever ashamed to carry and I was always really proud that I was named after him; ie his name is Alexander Ch--- H---- and my name was Alexandra Ch--- H----.

SE1723 · December 2010

bklyn10910:

I was absolutely thrilled to change my name. My dad has been an abusive jerk my whole life, and now he's disowned me because I refused to let him walk me down the aisle, so I'm doubly glad to drop his name.

It's so nice to marry into a loving, honorable family. I'm so happy to have my husband's last name now.

This...the whole thing except I let the jerk walk me down the aisle. I couldn't have written a better description of how I feel.

pondering_gal · December 2010

Phew, I'm glad some of you ladies felt the same way!

I put it off until after the honeymoon, then after our Disneyland vacation, then after Christmas, so I felt like if I didn't do it soon I might never get around to it.
Plus there are several checks made out to Brooke NewLastName, so theres some insentive too!

AlwaysABridesmaid... · December 2010

Not to drain your motivation but you can still deposit those checks.

DLLadybug · December 2010

I somewhat miss it now and then at work. Patients will ask me what my last name is and some used to recognize my maiden name from someone they knew. I loved it and sometimes came out surprised when it was someone that actually grew up with my Pop-pop or even my dad's friend.

But I love my new last name. It's shorter, 6 letters vs the 10 letters I used to have to sign. I never had room to write my name on anything. And now I do!

One thing though, at work when I sign the lab slips after drawing blood, I have to still sign my old initials. So I'm still stuck with it.

pondering_gal · December 2010

AlwaysABridesmaid...:
Not to drain your motivation but you can still deposit those checks.

When we went in to deposit all the checks from the wedding, the lady made it seem like she was doing us a huge favor since my name wasn't legally changed. I just figure it's going to be easier with an "official" change of name

Xan921 · December 2010

I was so excited to change my last name. I went to the SS office right after the wedding but just finally went to the MVA (DMV in most states) yesterday to change my license; I had already done my bank info so this was pretty much the last thing I had to do. I didn't have an issue with my maiden name, I love my Dad very much, but to me it just really makes it official that I'm married (I know it's official for those who don't change their names, but it's just a feeling I got once I did it, like "wow, this is real!" My initials didn't change either which was cool. I was so excited when Jason got home last night because I could show him my new license and say, "Look who I am!" lol

Patineuse1124 · December 2010

I still haven't gotten around to changing my last name yet (glad to hear I'm not the only one!) I decided to hyphenate as I'm already published in my field. Whenever people call me Mrs. hislastname, it really makes me glad I made the decision to hyphenate as I miss hearing my maiden name so the hyphenated name seems like the perfect compromise for me (though it makes my last name really long (Mxxxxxxx-Cxxxxxx).

Boynton1286 · December 2010

I don't have sad or happy feelings about it, I am just even keeled I guess. I did go from a long uncommon last name to a short extremely common last name. I do miss people asking my last name and saying "Maiden name" and then immediately asking if I know "so and so" because there aren't may people with that last name. Now they ask and I say "common name" and they don't say anything. On the up side it is really easy to sign and I didn't have to change my initials.

ddumire · December 2010

As others mentioned the process of changing my name has been such a chore! I recently changed my nursing license.

I'm happy to be Mrs. B-----, and I don't feel sad about dropping my maiden name. I love my dad and love my family, but I love sharing a name with my husband more.

It is still hard for me to say my new name when people ask me for my name. Sometimes I still say my old name and then have to correct myself.

nfp147 · December 2010

I'm happy to be Mrs. Newlastname. My maiden name was the name of an Irish band, and my new last name is the name of a Canadian band!

Anyway, I felt a little guilty about "dropping" my maiden name. I felt like it was a friend I stopped being friends with for no good reason. I know, weird.

schuette2 · January 2011

I was glad to lose it to some degree (a lot of family drama, thanks to an uncle), but I was also kind of sad to see it go. It's on my cousin's shoulders to carry it on, as he's the only male in the family that can, but it's on our shoulders to carry on the rest of Zach's line, since he's the only guy that can. No pressure. I did like the length of my maiden better, though. I don't have enough space to sign anymore since I gained a few letters, and my handwriting is big. The other is easier to pronounce than this one, too. We've been putting reservations in either under Zach or my maiden, since no one can spell or pronounce the new name.

bonnyandtim · January 2011

AlwaysABridesmaid...:
Not to drain your motivation but you can still deposit those checks.

I couldn't.

& I work at my bank!!!!

I was OK with changing my name. I guess I'm just pretty traditional. EXCEPT NO ONE can spell or say it!

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