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How do you let go...
...of a 12 year friendship?
Remember that BM who gave me hell during the entire engagement? The one who complained every which way and about every last little thing, including how she was going to get home from the RD? I haven't seen her ONCE since the wedding. I've reached out a few times and since she keeps shooting me down, have given up. I am aware that this friendship has reached it's natural end. But it's still really hard.
She started dating someone around the time of the wedding, and I asked a couple of times back in October if she wanted to do a double date because she seemed really happy and I'd like to meet him. She said no, he's shy around new people and she doesn't want to overwhelm him. Well, fast forward five months, they're still together, she's convinced he's the one (as in, hoped for a ring at her birthday around Thanksgiving and then again for Christmas) and now, in her New Years' Resolutions in her LJ, her #3 is "Escalate my relationship (engagement?)"
::Headdesk::
Clearly, I'm never going to meet him, which really stings. I get that this friendship has effectively ended itself, which is kinda hard because I don't have a lot of girlfriends around here, my girlfriends who attended the wedding were mostly OOT, and we're talking at least 1.5 hours away by car, most are only available by plane. But other than forcing myself NOT to read her LJ, how do I let go of this friendship? It stings more than I imagined it would, for all the sh*t she gave me during the engagement. TIA.
RIP Dr. Irving Fishman - 10/1/19-7/25/10 - thank you for holding on for me.
You made my wedding day complete.
Re: How do you let go...
I'm really sorry!! What a crappy friend....really. You said it best yourself, the friendship has run it's course and come to a natural end. If you feel like you need to give it one last shot - a hail mary of sorts - go for it. But know that chances are it won't be a positive outcome so just be prepared for that.
I know it's going to be hard but I think it's best if you just let the friendship go. In all honesty, the frienship seems like it's pretty much gone already. Stop reading her LJ - that's the key. You can't continue to read about her life and then expect it not to hurt. Cut your losses and realize that you deserve much better people in your life.
Clean slate in 2011.
::hugs::