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Porn Issue...
Okay, I usually post solely on the bump, but this question doesn't really apply.
I was helping my SO with some banking on his laptop, and he left to get something from Wal-mart. I went in to his folders, and saw one with a weird name. Well, it turns out it was porn. Weird, weird, weird porn. I don't usually have an issue with it, I even watch with him sometimes, but it really didn't seem normal, and kind of bothered me. I can't really put my finger on why it freaked me out so much, but it did.
My question is, do I bring it up, or just let it go?
I shouldn't have been snooping, so I'm thinking I should let it go. I understand everyone has different tastes, but Idk.
Re: Porn Issue...
Like someone else said, unless it was something illegal or animal related, I probably wouldn't mention it.
It was like anime. Like naked sex-comics. Like...idk, I can't explain it. But it wasn't photos, it was like drawings. I guess I over reacted. I have never seen anything like that though. I have watched actual porn and that doesn't faze me, it just seemed weird that drawings, cartoon-y stuff could be porn, and that a lot of people like it. I just hadn't heard of it. Thank you for the advice though! I decided to let it go, since it wasn't like...offensive or anything. I don't think it will get in the way, or be stuck in my head. I just decided that everyone has different tastes, and while many of my tastes are similar to his, we differ on this, and that's just fine.
Thanks guys!
In that case, it's very possible he just had it cause he thought it was funny/out of curiousity.
I'll never stop saying it until it stops being true: Guys are weird. Who knows what goes on in their heads, lol.
Just FTR, it's called "hentai", and it's not that odd. Most tube sites have a category for it, at any rate, so there must be a fair amount of demand. Though apparently in Japan, the word does have a negative connotation: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hentai (Link NSFW).
I'm a "whatever lifts your luggage" kind of girl: as long as everyone involved is a consenting adult, I figure it might not be for me, but probably plenty of other people have thought of it, done it, and filmed it already.
My fiance and I actually like hentai; it would bother me a bit if he was looking at the "normal" stuff, lol. We concluded that we like this better because it's fake; real porn is just too real. I think we like it too because we like the art and are geeks.
Granted, there is some really weird hentai out there that freaks me out, but I just avoid that completely. You get weird stuff everywhere, though.
I just responded on a similar situation, where nobody said it was a good thing. Most women actually wanted this woman to divorce the guy over it. WHAT?
Ok. From a guys stand point, I would bring it up to him. The porn itself is not a problem. The point of him trying to hide it.....is. I told my wife I had porn when she asked one day. She asked me to see it, and I told her she would have to find it. It turned out to be pretty entertaining, until she found some and wound up watching some with me. She...umm....really enjoys it when watching with me now. It's a huge turn on.....both ways...and has helped us in a lot of ways. I would just ask why he hid it from you. Don't let it turn into a big deal, just try to find out. You might actually be surprised!!!