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Hindsight Poll #3: Would you...
1) If you could...would you get married again...meaning would you WANT to re-plan a wedding and have it all over again?
2) Would you have a different wedding today if you were getting married than the one you had?
3) Anything else you would change associated with your wedding overall?
Re: Hindsight Poll #3: Would you...
1) I will never get married again...not even to DH again. lol. I never want to plan another wedding for as long as I live. If something happens to DH and I am tasked with finding another partner in life down the road....I will never marry them. Seriously. I never want to do it again (note that of course if it meant a lot to him I would consider it, but it would be a Vegas marriage, and it would also depend on a lot of things if I would do it...especially since if something did happen to DH there are parameters to his pension that would require me to remain unmarried, etc).
2) I dunno....I never knew what kind of wedding I wanted to begin with, so what I had was amazing...but there was no dream associated with it so sometimes I wonder if I could have achieved the same amazing feeling just by having something small on the beach somewhere. I didn't need the whole to-do...DH wanted it.
3) I don't think so...for what I had and what we spent...it was mind-blowingly amazing and gorgeous and people STILL talk about it. But again...could I have achieved the same feeling for myself and DH by having something smaller (cheaper?).
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1) If you could...would you get married again...meaning would you WANT to re-plan a wedding and have it all over again? Yes I would. I had fun planning our wedding.
2) Would you have a different wedding today if you were getting married than the one you had? There would be a few tweaks I'd make.
3) Anything else you would change associated with your wedding overall? I would've maybe had a more fun color palette and gotten married outdoors near the beach.
I would never, ever plan a wedding again. The amount of $$ we spent was on the frugal side and the drama that I had (up until our wedding day) was enough to make me rip out of my hair.
If we could, I would have done a destination wedding in Scotland. I would have invited only our family members and then use that time as an extended honeymoon. The only thing that prevented us to a destination wedding was that my mom was ill and could not travel.
I am happy we did get married and how we incorporated our love of gold prospecting but still....the drama, oh the fvckin drama!
1) If you could...would you get married again...meaning would you WANT to re-plan a wedding and have it all over again? Yes, I'd do it again and especially do the day-of all over again.
2) Would you have a different wedding today if you were getting married than the one you had? I think I'd have more detail. Ours was simple, yet elegant, but there are some things I would change, such as flowers.
3) Anything else you would change associated with your wedding overall? Other than detail, probably not.
1) If you could...would you get married again...meaning would you WANT to re-plan a wedding and have it all over again? The planning wasn't stressful for me at all, I wouldn't mind doing it again.
2) Would you have a different wedding today if you were getting married than the one you had? No way. Our wedding was perfect for us and everything came out so stress free and beautiful.
3) Anything else you would change associated with your wedding overall? We just got wedding photos back so the one thing I would change is making sure to tell the photographer to tell DH he HAS to smile. In 80% he appears to have a frown and I think there are only 10 pictures with an actual show-your-teeth smile. Even a slight grin would have made me happy compared to what I got.
2) Would you have a different wedding today if you were getting married than the one you had? Probably, but I still like how ours went so I'm not living in regret or anything.
3) Anything else you would change associated with your wedding overall? Now that I've been through it I would have planned the 2 days prior to and the day of the wedding better. I felt like a chicken running around with my head cut off and it really could have been a lot simpler.
1) If you could...would you get married again...meaning would you WANT to re-plan a wedding and have it all over again? Again? No. I did it (and enjoyed it) partly because I knew I'd regret it if I just ran off and eloped. But now, having done it, I don't feel any need to plan and have another elaborate wedding. Too much work and stress and money!
2) Would you have a different wedding today if you were getting married than the one you had? Nope. I really loved our wedding and felt it was very representative of who we are.
3) Anything else you would change associated with your wedding overall? Little things of course that you know and think of in hindsight, but nothing major.
1) If you could...would you get married again...meaning would you WANT to re-plan a wedding and have it all over again? yes
2) Would you have a different wedding today if you were getting married than the one you had? Oh heck yes!
3) Anything else you would change associated with your wedding overall? It would be smaller. the closest friends and family. We had an entire table of people not show up. What a waste. I would also skip the garter/bouquet/mother son/ father daughter dances. We would do heavy apps and music but only the first dance
1) If you could...would you get married again...meaning would you WANT to re-plan a wedding and have it all over again? Heck, no!
2) Would you have a different wedding today if you were getting married than the one you had? Not really. I loved our little intimate wedding.
3) Anything else you would change associated with your wedding overall? Just little things -- a bouquet that didn't dwarf me, wish I had said no gifts at the bridal shower with people I've never met, etc.
1) Definitely a yes. I did so much very early that I wasn't very overwhelmed and the whole thing was worth it. We had a really great stress free day.
2) I think the only thing I would change would be the scheduling so that we had more time to go take pictures at a different place.
3) I'd be more specific about how I wanted my cake to look.
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1) If you could...would you get married again...meaning would you WANT to re-plan a wedding and have it all over again?
I would not want to plan another wedding. If anything ever happened with DH and I - I would elope.
2) Would you have a different wedding today if you were getting married than the one you had?
Nope, I loved it.
3) Anything else you would change associated with your wedding overall?
Not sure.
1) If you could...would you get married again...meaning would you WANT to re-plan a wedding and have it all over again? Have it all over again. It was a magical evening and I don't regret any of it. I did not have much drama though and I liked the planning. At the time I was in grad school but not working so it wasn't super overwhelming. We celebrate 9 years of marriage this coming Wednesday but our wedding seems like just yesterday!
2) Would you have a different wedding today if you were getting married than the one you had? Hmmm I don't think so.
3) Anything else you would change associated with your wedding overall? I would have made sure to double check with the event venue coordinator on a few things.
1) If you could...would you get married again...meaning would you WANT to re-plan a wedding and have it all over again? If I wasn't working FT, yes. If I was teaching FT, no. I was in school and I was working at home taking care of then FI when we got engaged and married. It was all stressful but I still had more down time than teaching.
2) Would you have a different wedding today if you were getting married now than the one you had? Not much but I would have spend money on a few more things (like renting chairs) and few other logistical things. But overall we had a great day and I wouldn't change much.
3) Anything else you would change associated with your wedding overall? It would be quite different in terms of family dynamics for the positive although both our grandmothers have passed away since then. And some of the things FIL did then (like MC the reception) he couldn't do now with his illness.
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1) If you could...would you get married again...meaning would you WANT to re-plan a wedding and have it all over again? I loved planning my wedding. Helping my SIL plan her wedding is really showing that. I would definitely plan a wedding again if, God forbid, anything happened to DH.
2) Would you have a different wedding today if you were getting married than the one you had? No. People still talk about how beautiful and fun my wedding was. I am reminded of this whenever I look at pictures of my wedding. It was exactly the way I wanted it.
3) Anything else you would change associated with your wedding overall? I would have had my cousin take all of the pictures. He was AMAZING. Better than our paid photographer. I actually prefer his pictures. Also, I would have invited all of my future step-siblings. I hadn't at the time, and it caused some drama. I would have liked to have them there.
1) If you could...would you get married again...meaning would you WANT to re-plan a wedding and have it all over again?Nope. I loved my wedding and have wonderful memories from it, but the idea of spending that amount of money on something like that makes me cringe (especially when I think of the traveling we could have done instead). I'm excited about helping plan my sister's wedding though!
1) If you could...would you get married again...meaning would you WANT to re-plan a wedding and have it all over again? Hell no. I loved our wedding, but I never want to plan one again.
2) Would you have a different wedding today if you were getting married than the one you had? Our wedding ended up fantastic but if I could have had a crystal ball to tell me how crappy and moronic the owner of our venue was, we would have run screaming.
3) Anything else you would change associated with your wedding overall? Just the venue. And I would have appointed someone else to watch the clock so we wouldn't have been late.
1- i would only b/c planning, to me at least, wasn't as crazy as people make it out to be - no in law drama, no parents INSISTING on inviting their friends, etc. i planned a very nice party for 65 people.
2- nope .... i LOVED my wedding
3- just the way it was financed .. that is the ONLY thing i'd change
1) If you could...would you get married again...meaning would you WANT to re-plan a wedding and have it all over again?
I would.
2) Would you have a different wedding today if you were getting married than the one you had?
I don't think it would be very different
3) Anything else you would change associated with your wedding overall?
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1) If you could...would you get married again...meaning would you WANT to re-plan a wedding and have it all over again? Yes, definitely. I enjoyed planning it, but the wedding I wanted was completely different from the one that we had, so I'd love to be able to do that.
2) Would you have a different wedding today if you were getting married than the one you had? Oh yes.
3) Anything else you would change associated with your wedding overall? Um, the venue, the food, the dress, probably the flowers..... I wouldn't change the officiant though, we really loved her.
1) If you could...would you get married again...meaning would you WANT to re-plan a wedding and have it all over again? We would elope rather than planning a big wedding. I am so not a planner.
2) Would you have a different wedding today if you were getting married than the one you had? We would probably still have the same wedding we had almost 3 years ago.
3) Anything else you would change associated with your wedding overall? The unexpected venue change we had six months before the wedding due to WC cutting our caterer's contract with Boundary Oaks sucked. Luckily, the Jefferson Street Mansion turned out to be a much better venue. I would have gone with JSM from the beginning if I had known about it earlier.
1) If you could...would you get married again...meaning would you WANT to re-plan a wedding and have it all over again? Yes, I don't regret having a wedding but I'd do it differently.
2) Would you have a different wedding today if you were getting married than the one you had? I'd have an intimate wedding in Kauai and spend the money to fly those people out/give a vacation to the people important to me.
3) Anything else you would change associated with your wedding overall? I wouldn't offer beef as an entree choice lol.
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