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Wedding drama stories? Now I'm curious.
So many of you alluded to drama at the actual wedding. Anyone feel comfy sharing what happened? What was the most drama-ridden moment of your wedding or the planning process?
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Re: Wedding drama stories? Now I'm curious.
During planning: My MOH decided that she didn't have time for things like throwing me a bridal shower or getting measured for her dress (that I was paying for) and pretty much blew me off for most of my planning. Two months before the wedding she disconnects her phone and the only way I can get a hold of her was to go to her work, which she got mad about. After a lot of calls from family wanting me to tell them when the bridal shower was, and my MIL wanting to know when she was coming to get measured for the dress, I finally just asked her flat out if she wanted out of the wedding and she said yes. Thankfully I had an awesome friend that stepped up and was my MOH, even if only for the last 2 months of planning.
During the wedding: SIL, who was a bridesmaid, changed into ripped jeans and a tank top the first second the ceremony was over. No one had discussed with me about changing so I just assumed everyone would be in their dresses. Nick and I walk into the reception after having our couple pictures taken and the first words out of my mouth were "Where's your dress?" because I was taken by such surprise. Everyone heard me because we were, you know, just entering and everyone was looking at us! So I totally humiliated her and made myself look like a crazy ***. But then she responds with "I was cold" (side note--who changes from a floor length gown to ripped up jeans and tank top to get warmth?) and then she ignores me and shoots me dirty looks all night. Best part? All of the reception pictures, including ones where she was sitting at the head table, have her in her ripped up jeans. Everyone else is in very nice formal wear, and there she is in the ugliest of street clothes.
Wth? That's just weird! Who does that and doesn't expect consequences?
We had ordered our BM dresses on a Saturday and all the girls paid for their own. On Monday, I got a call from the store saying the dress company let them know the dresses were discontinued and we would have to re-order. So J and I went back and chose a different dress that was $20 more than the previous. We fronted the money to get the order in and asked that the girls reimburse us (we were pretty strapped at that time). I got a MYSPACE message (not phone call, not face-to-face) message from one BM telling me how selfish I am, that I need to consider others' budgets and that she and another BM didn't even know why they were asked to be in the wedding in the first place. I was stressed, but trying to keep a face of "everything is fine" that I just lost it. I ended up in tears and J had to call the BM and set her straight. I felt really bad and offered to pay her half of her dress cost (which I found out later was COMPLETELY covered by her parents so she was offered essentially free money), the cost of her shoes, alterations, makeup and hair, but that it was considered a BM gift and would be given to her at the rehearsal dinner. The following 3 months, she literally harassed me via email, myspace, text, what have you, asking when I would be giving her "her money". I kept telling her what I told her before about giving the money at the rehearsal, but she kept saying how she needs the money, it's important, blah blah blah. I ended up sending her a check for $50 and she complained "you said it would be half the dress cost, the dress was $120, so I need another check for $10". I never gave it to her.
This is the "friend" I had posted about before regarding her wedding and bridal shower back in October.
Four words:
My mother in law
Thank god we paid for our wedding...while she did not have any say in our wedding planning, it did not prevent her from creating drama and trying to be the center of attention (which she failed in).
One thing I remember she did. She had FIL email ME (not me and DH) but just me asking if they could invite some people who I never met and DH only met once but b/c they asked how DH was doing, they felt they should be invited to our wedding. Um, no. Then she got pissed at that so she tried to give me $$ for the flowers so she could have a say in that. Sorry, it is a package deal and there is no negotiation on flowers-it is sunflower (my favorite).
Then on our wedding day (I found this out later) she had the balls to tell her son (DH) that the suit he was wearing was not right and that he should have lost some weight. Awesome.
Oh and when we were going through our pictures, there was about four pictures (out of hundreds) that she actually smiled in.
During planning: My SIL became a crazy - controlling person. She and my Bro eloped and she wanted to plan my whole thing. It drove me crazy, she went out and started buying *** for us to use, even if I told her that I was buying X or making X. I asked my nephew to be a ring bearer, my brother said yes then backed out
During wedding:
My brother refused to take a family picture with my mom and I, or my mom, his family and I. Pissed me and my SIL off. I felt like it was a good opportunity to get a nice family shot.
My friend came to the reception, and he did not dress up, he's a carpenter and has long hair. Well people thought he was wedding crashing - including my MIL. Made me sad.
Wow. My wedding drama does not compare to all of this. Mine, in retrospect, was kind of funny.
I expected to pay for my catering on the day of the wedding, like my other vendors. I did not receive any reminders from the caterer. Two days before the wedding, I was hosting my bridesmaid thank you when I got a phone call from someone at the caterers office. The guy said that I needed to pay THAT NIGHT and if I didn't, my event would be cancelled. I freaked out on him. I screamed that he WOULD NOT cancel my event or I would go BRIDEZILLA on his @$$!!! In front of my bridesmaids. I hung up on him and called DH in tears. Who called my dad and got it taken care of. My dad and my FIL talked to the actual caterer at the wedding and he was HORRIFIED. My FIL is a big yuckity yuck in the area, so I think the guy who called me got a stern talking to.
Also, the day before my wedding, I ran into my neighbor's car getting out of the driveway. And then I stopped at Borders to pick something up for the honeymoon, and then I couldn't start my car. I freaked out and called DH in tears again. He asked me if I had "pressed the button" to disarm my car alarm. Which I hadn't. Then I picked up my MOH and she drove me to my almost in-laws, and I slept the whole way!
I have several but everything was leading up to the wedding or after E and I left the reception.
I tried and plan a brunch for my bridesmaids and instead of being grateful for it I got told I was demanding too much of them. I didn't have them help with anything or ask them to do anything besides pay for their dresses and get themselves to the wedding.
I got an email about 2 weeks before the wedding from one of BM's Mom's who told me that A needed to spend the night before my wedding with her Dad and not me. That I needed to have all the girls hair professionally done, ect. I made me mad because A didn't tell me this herself, her mother did it.
E was suppose to get his DD214 and final paper work July 1st and be home by July 4th. The paper work was messed up and he didn't get home until 1 am July 9th, and our wedding was the 10th.
My cousin planned a B party for me then backed out because of cost. My Mom told her we could just do a simple thing at our house and she would pay for everything. She didn't want to do that either. And she refused to call the people who RSVPd so I had to call them all.
I called my cousin to tell her E's paper work got messed up then she proceed to yell at me for an hour and tell me that I needed to respect my MIL more and that I was ungrateful and that she just wanted to make sure I didn't say anything to anyone on my wedding day that I would regret.
After we left the wedding my Mom walked "in" on my cousin and her BF screaming and yelling at each other.
I'd say during the planning the biggest drama we had was between my mom and I. She doesn't handle her emotions well and instead of dealing with them she becomes mentally abusive, so we had a lot of stuff going on between us. DH and his dad had some similar things going on, but really his dad as usually just completely ignored him and when he did talk to him, told him he should wait to get married because he didn't know what he was doing. One of my BMs also started getting a little out of touch and during the last 3 months of the process starting ignoring me which culminated in her ruining my b-party and us not being friends 2 months after the wedding.
As far as the actual day off drama, we were nervous about a few people coming who we thought might cause some drama but they didn't come. And DH's father didn't come to the wedding at all which obviously really hurt and upset DH.
Tea Time for Lulu
My MIL went a little bit nuts during the planning. T had multiple phone calls from her that would end with her screaming at him over something stupid and hanging up on him. I wanted to elope a lot!
Our venue called us two weeks before the wedding and told me that they had double booked us. Well, actually they had us marked in their books as being 1 week later. So we were in a huge panic and had to move the wedding to the day before it had been planned. It made for a funny (kind of) story and nobody will ever forget our wedding!
It's just lately that I can really laught about it. The owner of the venue went out of business last year and T and I toasted to that. He was a scumbag. But I get two anniversaries, our actual wedding day and our Should-a-been-aversary.
i purposefully kept my wedding date a last minute secret from my mom's family. no save the dates were sent to the so cal crowd. as a result, my cousins and my aunt couldn't make my wedding. my mom was PISSED b/c we had gone down to so cal for my aunt's wedding and my cousin's wedding and she couldn't make it up for mine. i was eh about it, my aunt had promised to babysit for my cousin's kids so he and his wife could go to a hockey game that night.
the drama was b/t my mom and her sister and NOT me .. i could have cared less.
1) our venue informed us that they were going to be doing a big remodel and our space wouldn't be available. After a scramble, we ended up somewhere much nicer for the same money.
2) SIL (and BM) didn't get to town until just before rehearsal (which she was then late for because of car rental drama) She missed the BM luncheon and getting nails done. Then she missed RD because she had to get her grandma and aunts at the airport and take them to the hotel (and they didn't arrive until the middle of the RD)
3) BM in Canada didn't get the e-mail from the dress store that her dress was not available in the long length she'd ordered. Didn't find out until about a month before that she had no dress. She was coming directly from another wedding in England so had no time for alterations...had to get them done the day before the wedding. Had issues with flights from England and arrived with no luggage and didn't rent a car so I had to have people take her to go get clothes and toiletries
4) MOH didn't want to wear lipstick. My mom told her to suck it up. She got bent out of shape that I didn't stick up for her or apologize for my mom's behavior.