October 2010 Weddings
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I'm so freaking pissed off at my little sister, she went and untagged half my freaking wedding pics of her just b/c. She had no freaking reason for doing it, didn't ask, and it really hurt my feelings. Like, you were one of my maids of honor, and you don't wanna be in the pics??? TOUGH!
Sorry, I'm annoyed.
I think having to work on an obituary a for 12 year old who died from cancer really screwed me up today.
ETA: She did it too all the pics that Joe posted too, wtf??? I absolutely HATE how I look in half the pics, but they're wedding pictures. And my mom BEGGED us to untag a few pretty embarrassing ones her, and I said no, b/c they're from the wedding.... ARGH.
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That's just it, she left the horrible ones, I don't get it. And she's saying she untagged them just b/c she thought they weren't mine, how does that work?
But I know some people are very particular about what pictures are up of themselves. I would just be annoyed, but keep it at that.
How terrible for that 12-year-old. I don't know how I would deal with something like that :-/
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I agree, it's not really a reason to get mad at her. Some of my friends/family did it in wedding photos and it didn't bother me in the least.
I agree. I don't see what the big deal is. Sometimes I untag myself from pictures because I don't want 50 of the same type of picture of me to show up on my profile. A few will suffice, but dozens clutter up the "photos of me" album on my profile. I think you are overreacting, personally.
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I'm torn. I totally respect internet privacy and probably won't post pictures of my children online. I think a lot of people don't respect privacy in the digital age the way they used to. However, it was really annoying when I spent a lot of time tagging 150 professional wedding pics on FB and one of my BMs untagged herself because she thought they were unflattering.
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I can see how it would be annoying, but I also think it is too easy to take that stuff personally. Yeah, you may have spent 20 hours tagging photos of me in your Destiny is the most awesome person photo album, but I didn't ask you to do that.
(I know you don't have a destiny is the most awesome person photo album - but a girl can dream can't she?)
People have to be very careful these days because when they post something on the internet they never know how it will be used. I hate knowing how much of my personal information is out there.
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I totally agree with this, too. I can see why you'd be frustrated, but in the grand scheme of things, this isn't anything to get worked up over. My brother untagged himself in every wedding photo I posted. I thought, "huh" and moved on.
And that's just horrible about the 12 year old girl. Jeez.
She apologized, she said she didn't realize they were my pics, which are private (you have to be my friend to see them), and she retagged herself. She said she would've never done it had she realized I loved the pics so much that it would upset me. As a teenager that probably would've never crossed my mind either.
I rarely even tag people in my own photos (that I post), so not having photos tagged isn't something that even registers to me. People are welcome to tag themselves in my photos if they'd like (and most do), but I know how much I dislike having people tag me in photos they put up, so I just return the courtesy I'd like extended to me.
Maybe it's just me, but photos are just as lovely whether there are names are "tag" attached to them or not - and I HATE showing up on news feeds all over FB. It is just as identifying to post the names in a caption and avoid the feed issue altogether.
I think it's all a very personal thing and differs from person to person. While I love FB for so many reasons, I do hate the way it removes privacy soley based on what someone ELSE wants to post/tag/do. I accept it, but I still hate it.
I will say that if someone insisted on me remaining tagged, or told me that my feelings or opinion on it didn't matter because they wanted me to be tagged - that person would find themselves unfriended instantly.
Im a little lost with this one --
Why are you upset that she untagged herself?
She didnt untag you, right? And she didnt delete the whole photo or anything, right? Im not totally sure I understand how this is a problem, since anyone who could see the original picture (if they are your friend, etc) can still see them, and can still see how nice they are.
Plus, it sounds like they will still SEE your sister there, even if she isnt "identified."
Maybe I am not understanding this issue....
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I get it. Untagging herself from photos in the grand scheme might not be a big deal, but if you're a person who over thinks things, and takes things personally, it can hurt your feelings. Like, equating not wanting to be seen in the pictures with not wanting to be seen with me/in my wedding. Anabeth, we over think things. It's also (in my opinion, being one of those people) partially a projection of how we feel about ourselves. I know that I, personally, take everything in the worst way possible. It's because of my crappy sense of self worth.
And most people don't think about how the things they do or say might be/will be interpreted by others. What hurts one person's feelings may not hurt another, but I think it's always important to respect how other people feel. You said she's a teenager? Tact and thoughtfulness sometimes don't manifest until a person grows up. I don't think she meant to hurt your feelings, and it's not a reflection of how she feels about you.
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I wouldnt get upset about that...I understand your miffed because she really didnt have a reason....My best friend from elementary school untagged herself in my wedding photos but explained she didnt like pictures being posted on a public forum and begged me not to get upset....I guess in the grand scheme of things it really doesnt matter.....Let her untag herself...dont be upset....think about what is important in life.
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It had a lot to do with what Jena said, I do overthink things and take things far too personally. My sister is 13, almost 14, an a camera whore lol, she tags the everliving crap out of herself in ANY OTHER pics, I get at least 5 updates on her pics per day. And she takes a new default at least once a day, usually more. So for her to untag pics that I LOVE and pics that I paid for, really peeved me.
It didn't help that I found out b/c my mom was retagging all of them with my sisters full name since you're not allowed to tag once someone removes it. My mom was trying to help thinking I had missed them, so I got annoyed that I went through all that work just so my mom had to do it all over again. It was just frustrating. And I was not in a good mindset after work today.
If she'd told me she didn't like them or didn't want them up, I would have respected that, but neither of those were the case. My pics are also private, only my specific friends can see them. Not that she cares since she's willy nilly all over chat roulette, oovoo (??), myspace, AIM, that "ask me anything" sh!t (Formsprong??) and a few I probably have no clue about.
Whoa there. They are pictures! If I don't like pictures of me, I untag myself. REGARDLESS of them being someone's wedding. Even if it were my sister's wedding. Heck, I didn't even post any embarrassing pictures of my sister because I know she would get upset.
Just because it's your wedding doesn't mean she has to be tagged. I don't get the big deal about being tagged in every picture anyway. Big whoop! Does it really matter? Are you really going to lose sleep over her untagging herself?
If you read what I posted above you'd know why I felt it was a big deal, and also that she apologized and fixed it.
Well for your information, I did read everything. After I posted what I had already said and I didn't feel like fixing it.
I still don't get the big deal. Whether they were "not pictures of yours" or not, it still is that person's right to remove them. Regardless if you paid for them or not.
If someone tagged me in their amazing expensive wedding pictures and I looked like crap, or I didn't think that they were theres or whatever the reason, I can untag myself, whether that person likes it or not.
I really don't get the big deal. I didn't get offended when the singer/song writer untagged herself from my sister's pictures.
I just tagged people in a few just in case they wanted to see that they were in my pictures, but I would hate to feel that they feel obligated to keep them up there.
Sounds like the poor girl was guilted into re-tagging herself in your pics. I know you said you over think things and self esteem issues and whatnot, but it must suck for her to think that she has to be tagged in your pics although she doesn't want them on her page because of your personal issues.
I agree with Diana in not seeing what the big deal is. My MOH untagged herself in some pics that she didn't think flattered her. Who cares?
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She wasn't guilted into anything. She offered, if she really didn't want them tagged I would've dropped it. And I never said she HAD to be tagged, it hurt my feelings that she didn't want to be, big difference. I care.