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Dog next door will not stop barking at my dog...suggestions please

This has been going on for MONTHS, I will let me dog outside and the neighbors dog will go running up to the fence and bark hysterically at my dog. my dog does nothing back, I feel like my dog is being harassed by this other dog.  Sometimes i will go outside and firmly tell the other dog NO, but it just keeps barking. the owner has never once came outside to quiet her barking dog.  well today i was just fed up with my dog once again being harassed, i went outside and yelled very loudly at the other dog, STOP IT, NO!  It didnt stop but the owner came in the yard for the first time ever and had the nerve to ask me if my dog was misbehaving....I had to let her have it and firmly told her that her dog is harassing mine everytime she goes outside and i am sick of it.  she pretty much told me that 'thats dogs for ya, deal with it'.  i yelled 'i will deal with it'.

i have no idea how to deal with it. its not my dog causing the problem and she pretty much just told me she doesnt care and is not going to try to calm her dog down.

 is there anything i can do about this. i dont want to call the police or start a court thing, just something civilized....at least for now.   should i video tape her dog doing this 'barking harassment' to mine?

any comments suggestions anything is greatly needed right now.....uuuugggg! :(

Re: Dog next door will not stop barking at my dog...suggestions please

  • Two words:  Super.Soaker.   It's a great training device :)
  • Your dog isn't reacting to it. You are. You are the one who perceives that your dog is being harrassed, but your dog is not telling you that. When dogs feel threatened or harrassed, they tend to (a) handle it on their own or (b) show submissive behavior such as not wanting to go outside, slinking away from the other dog, ears back and head down to the other dog.

    I think you might be humanizing your dog a little too much. Your dog is not a child and does not respond to things in the way that a child would (crying, low self-esteem, feeling bullied). Dogs have their own codes of behavior. If it doesn't bother your dog - as you have said, let it go.

    If you get a super soaker, or make any attempt to discipline THAT dog - then you're being abusive towards your neighbor's animal and you've become the aggressor in the situation. If I were the neighbor and you started mistreating my dog, I'd call the police on you.

    That being said - your dog may just have more patience in this situation for handling things on its own. I once had a golden retriever that would just look at these two mid-sized terriers who barked at it non-stop ALL. THE. DAM. TIME. Didn't seem to phaze my dog at all for about a year. Then one day, my dog looked at them (he outweighed them by about 20 lbs) and freaking charged them both. He was going to kick both their asses! I have no idea what those terriers barked at him that was so different than the entire year before, but he'd had enough and he handled it. Of course, me & the other owner intervened before they actually touched each other - but the terriers quit barking at him after that. He'd shown them he had limits.

  • imageanotapotamus:

    Your dog isn't reacting to it. You are. You are the one who perceives that your dog is being harrassed, but your dog is not telling you that. When dogs feel threatened or harrassed, they tend to (a) handle it on their own or (b) show submissive behavior such as not wanting to go outside, slinking away from the other dog, ears back and head down to the other dog.

    I think you might be humanizing your dog a little too much. Your dog is not a child and does not respond to things in the way that a child would (crying, low self-esteem, feeling bullied). Dogs have their own codes of behavior. If it doesn't bother your dog - as you have said, let it go.

    If you get a super soaker, or make any attempt to discipline THAT dog - then you're being abusive towards your neighbor's animal and you've become the aggressor in the situation. If I were the neighbor and you started mistreating my dog, I'd call the police on you.

    That being said - your dog may just have more patience in this situation for handling things on its own. I once had a golden retriever that would just look at these two mid-sized terriers who barked at it non-stop ALL. THE. DAM. TIME. Didn't seem to phaze my dog at all for about a year. Then one day, my dog looked at them (he outweighed them by about 20 lbs) and freaking charged them both. He was going to kick both their asses! I have no idea what those terriers barked at him that was so different than the entire year before, but he'd had enough and he handled it. Of course, me & the other owner intervened before they actually touched each other - but the terriers quit barking at him after that. He'd shown them he had limits.

    This. If your dog is showing signs of it upsetting him, I would address it.   If he does not, let it be. I realize with a fence, it is harder for your dog to handle it on his own.  Another point to consider is that the other day may just be wanting to play. We had a neighbor dog growing up who loved to run along the fence and bark. He wanted our dog to run back and forth with him.  Perhaps neighbor dog just wants to play and that is something you could arrange?

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  • My dogs are  barkers, as are the little yappers next door.  My dogs only go outside for the bathroom then I bring them back in.  If I do let them out there & they bark & bring them right back inside.  I also try to teach them to be quiet/stop barking.  It's not the easiest command but it helps some.  As for the neighbor dogs, sounds like the neighbor is not being a good owner, her dogs are probably bored & not getting attention, etc.  Keep track of the barking, do not react to or yell at her dogs, and try to have a calm conversation with her.  If that doesn't work call your local non-emergency police number or the local animal control to report the barking.

    As far as what you shouldn't do-do not use a super soaker!!  if you do anything to antagonize a dog on his own property & the dog attacks you will be held liable.   The landlord next door went off on my dogs years ago & ended up leaning over the fence screaming obscenities at them.  I went right over to tell/ask him to never, ever do that again and he went off on me.  Turns out his wife is afraid of dogs.  He should have explained that to me long ago instead of loosing it.  Once he went apeshit & started threatening my dogs he was violating Ohio law. 

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  • Also, if at all possible put up some type of privacy fence, at least on that side of the yard.  If the other dogs can't see you & your dog they'll react less-plus you'll be less stressed!  I DIYed the back section of our yard with pannels from Home Depot.  It's sweaty work but fairly cheap.
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  • imagejarmstrong23:
    Two words:  Super.Soaker.   It's a great training device :)

    It was a joke. Sorry everyone took it so literally...

  • imagejarmstrong23:

    imagejarmstrong23:
    Two words:  Super.Soaker.   It's a great training device :)

    It was a joke. Sorry everyone took it so literally...

    I don;t find it offensive, I was just worried that the OP might just take you seriously.  Thought I might throw in some more neighborly things she might try first.

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  • imagejarmstrong23:

    imagejarmstrong23:
    Two words:  Super.Soaker.   It's a great training device :)

    It was a joke. Sorry everyone took it so literally...

    Sorry. I've actually seen that done. So I wasn't sure whether you were joking or not.

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