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*blush* Our NY resolution
More yoga.
Both quantity and quality. Yes, it's been sad. A handful of times a month, and kinda "meh" at that.
So we had this big talk the other night about things we could do to spice things up. And I had to laugh because it was simple stuff like "visualize!" (like coaches always tell their athletes). And reminding myself that I actually can feel sexy, because I really haven't felt that way lately. Coming out of our shells more. I mean, if we can't be 100% comfortable with each other, who can we be comfortable with?
Now, I know it's only been a couple of days, but I gotta say it's been awesome. I always thought V was pretty awesome, but now I actually look at him and giggle like a schoolgirl again. We both keep smiling like those silly goofs in the Viagra/Cialis/Levitra commercials.
I knew there was a reason people said sex was an important part of marriage.
ETA: Anyone up for chatting about it? How's your yoga these days? Any tips?
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Re: *blush* Our NY resolution
Ha, I was just thinking this morning that it would be fun if our board implemented a Sex Talk Friday type post like TIP does, but I wasn't sure if people would be up for it. This board can be a bit tame at times.
We didn't make an official resolution of it, but we did talk the other day about trying to expand our horizons when it comes to foreplay. We have great sex, and frequency is good, but a lot of times I'm anxious to get right to the deed and everything else gets thrown out the door. Not only are we going to try more foreplay before sex, but also more sexitime sessions that don't involve actual sex - i.e. all oral (something I could be more generous with, I admit.)
Baby #2: Surprise BFP 9.19.12, EDD 5.24.13, natural m/c 10.19.13 at 9w
eouellet, I am with you on the getting to the point thing. Our frequency is good, but there are many times when I'm tired and I'd rather get to the point than spend too much time on foreplay. That sounds terrible.
Lately I've definitely been working on trying to keep it fresh. Different positions, and whatnot because I feel like many times we get too comfortable and get stuck in a sex rut - same couple of positions, at night, in bed. Blah.
I do this so often too, and I'm trying to be better about it. I feel so lucky that DH thinks I'm sexy and is so attracted to me, and I think I might take it for granted sometimes. I really have to be more responsive when he's trying to start things up.
Although, now that we're TTC, our frequency has definitely gone up significantly.
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I pounced on DH on the couch while watching a movie on Saturday. This was a much needed kickstart and opened the door for many more weekend adventures.
We had been in a terrible rut before that due to injuries, illnesses and me being emotionally checked out around the holidays with my grandma being sick and passing.
We had a ton of fun TTC, and haven't touched each other since. I feel bad, but I also feel sick, so that's really the trade off. I'm hoping once this m/s eases up, I'll be in a better mood to be frisky. Generally, we try a whole bunch of fun things and have no problem laughing with each other when things go wrong. Our frequency has never been good since we dated, so I'm used to that. It's always sort of in spurts and then goes away for a bit. Thankfully, DH is being very patient, knowing that I'm not feeling great lately. I'm also nervous to start spotting or something and freak out that it was something we did. Soon enough we can get back to it.
I have to say that with a whole bunch of big dogs and cats in the house, it's tough to get in the mood. Nothing like the dog staring you down as you make out on the couch or strip naked to have the cat jump on the bed.
Since I only see Russ one week out of ever month (on average) we make up for a month's worth of yoga at that time. On average, I'd say we have steamy yoga 2-3 times a day (or night) in the week he's home. I think the worst, and only time we have ever had is when he fell asleep, well more like he passed out...erm mid thrust
. Even when he's at work I'll send him "pictures". I really think it's important to keep sex in the relationship and have fun with it. + we are both really adventurous too, which doesn't hurt anything either.
Our kids are always napping, at school, or down for the night when we get down to business. I've heard a lot of people tell me that sex goes out the window when you have kids but kids aren't awake 24/7.
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10/1 1st u/s measuring right on track, 125 bpm
My poor DH.
When we were doing IVF you're not suppose to have sex. When I was pregnant with the triplets it was incredibly painful and uncomfortable to have sex. We hadn't had sex since June! The first time we finally did it again was just before Christmas, and it's been pretty much every day since then.
I'm wild, and erm creative in terms of sex, DH is more vanilla, so we're working on meeting both our needs better.
I so miss yoga. During first tri I was on pelvic rest and we couldn't yoga per doctor's orders. Since then, we've only done it twice despite my very strong urges. At first it was uncomfortable because things got pretty dry. (I believe it's a side effect in pregnancy). Anyway, thankfully we had lube and used it and that made things great again. Now, DH is so afraid to hurt me or the baby that we haven't done it in weeks, maybe months. I think it's time I talk to him about how much I miss being intimate.
We suck at sex too... quantity rather than quality. I swear, it's like 1-2 times a month. =S
I'd SO be down with sexy talk Fridays! I love it.
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I just said to DH the other day that I think we need to make more of an effort with the sexy time. Quantity comes in spurts. Our problem is that I'm pretty reserved and we decided that we need to spend more time 'taking care of me.' It's not that he doesn't try, it's all me. It's hard to explain.
Drunken New Years Eve was awesome!
I am a huge proponent that sex makes a happy marriage. It also could be that I have a high drive too. I dunno. Either eay great resolution!
I have to say I am jealous of your yoga time. Ever since I started showing, around 16 weeks, my hubby has avoided me like the plague. It's been a while since we did the deed and even then there were issues since he is terrified of hurting me. Usually I am good at taking care of him when things are dry between us but i don't even feel like it since he wants nothing to do with me (I know selfish, maybe). I teased him the other day of getting it on to help things out in terms of labor and he nearly crapped his pants. So looks like I will have to wait post partum. Ugh!
I would say our yoga time is OK. Not great, not horrible. We definitely could improve.
I have a low sex drive, which sucks. And now with Emmett I don't have the energy to pretend like I do. When we do manage to get some yoga time in it's pretty good, but I'd say it's maybe once a week. Poor DH has a superhuman sex drive.