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Bad and possibly good news.
So MIL won't back down and is still refusing to look after Lucie at our house so I'm refusing to back down and if that's the case she doesn't get to look after her. I also emailed my boss to check that I could still work a day at home and she said she never agreed to it in the first place which is a lie. So now, instead of 2 days of daycare, we need 4 - we may as well just put her in fulltime.
Well, a girl I've been getting to know who I met through my old coworker has a 4 month old and wants to stay at home and look after 1 other child. She called me yesterday and would love to watch Lucie 4 days a week for less than the going rate. She was talking to her husband last night to figure out how much she needed to make and is going to call me back and let me know so fingers crossed it's a good price. She is wonderful - very hands on, very organized, great cook... she raised her stepson very well who is now 6 and she would take Lucie on outings to mom's group and music class. I think it would be great as she'd still be interacting with another child but she'll get the attention she needs and I trust this woman.
I'm going to look at another place right now but hope I get a call later that solves all my concerns! MIL will be pissed but I'll let her know is she wants to come out here every other week and look after Lucie I won't object but I am not driving her there. She doesn't even attempt to know what she's doing either so I'm not upset about it - she gives Lucie back every time she cries and looks terrified - doesn't even attempt to console her.
Re: Bad and possibly good news.
Oh wow, Im so sorry you have to go through this! It has to be very hard for you.
First, your boss is a jerk! Do you have any previous emails as proof that she agreed to you working form home? If so- hold her to that. If not, think about finding another job, or quit if you guys can afford it (bc daycare is expensive and not worth the headaches of working for your boss if at the end of the work week you make little money after paying for daycare). Does that make sense?
I hope this woman you found will work out for you! GL
I need to see what records I have of her saying that. And the reason for her saying no isn't that she thinks I can't work from home, she doesn't want to be alone in the office She wants someone to yell at.
The price we're looking at for daycare is only 1/4 of what I bring in each month so it's actually still worth it for me to work, unfortunately. I hope in time I can find something part time.
Im sorry
I had a boss that was awful, would treat me like crap and work me to death. One day, I got so fed up with it I quit on him with no notice. I heard he asked if he was the reason I had quit, and he then changed after that. Some people need a good slap in the face to wake up I guess.
Well, at least it is still worth it for you to work. GL in finding something else- and sooner than later
I am sorry you are dealing with a crappy MIL issue. I feel your pain. Mine is still going on. Stick to what you want. You're the mom; your child, your rules. The end. She'll either do it, or wake up one day with the regret. Tough titty!
Your boss ticks me off. What abt speaking with the contacts from before when she changed a little for the better?