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Party Invite Dilemma: WWYD?
I'm throwing DH a 30th birthday party in March and just started throwing some plans together, having invites designed, etc. I was telling a girl at work about the party theme (80's!!) and just generally saying "Oh we decided on a theme, Dh is excited"...and now she totally thinks she's invited! She messaged me on FB about this website she found and told me she can't wait to come cuz she's never been to an 80's party before...and that she'd love to help me decorate.
I don't hang out with this girl outside of work, we've driven to a few work functions together and are definitely on "work friend only" terms. Part of me feels like "ok whatever, just let her come" and the other part of me feels like "Dh doesn't know her, none of our friends know her, she doesn't need to come".
WWYD?!
Re: Party Invite Dilemma: WWYD?
Don't invite her, she'll get the hint.
Maybe just let her down easy-Say that you didn't mean to lead her on but that this will be a party of your hubby's friends and your shared friends. Also, I wouldn't talk to her about the party anymore. Maybe if you stop talking to her about she might get the hint.
If she's a girl from work that you never hang out with outside of work, and your DH doesn't even know her, I see no obvious reason why she should be invited to his birthday party.
It's pretty strange/clueless of her to invite herself like this. I'd just respond nicely and say, "Thanks for the link! Just wanted to mention we're keeping the party to just family and DH's close friends..." and leave it at that. It's lame that you even have to spell that out for her.
I would say "screw it" and invite her. She sounds harmless and kind of helpful too? Or maybe she is just a pain...
Would it be weird around her if she didn't get invited? If you have a lot of people coming you may not even notice she is there.
PAL/PGAL Welcome
Passanie -- You are HILARIOUS. Totally awkward.
I think I'm gonna go with the "stop talking about it around work" idea and see if she backs off. I don't even think I mentioned when it is, so that's a plus. I'm trying not to mention it in FB status's either, just cuz not every single one of our friends/family is invited (and I always hate when people do that "thanks for the invite" rudeness..even if they are joking). If she did end up coming, I don't even know if I could ignore her...she literally knows no one else that would be there, so I'm afraid she'd cling to me :