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My Sister vs. My SIL
My families are BSC. Fair warning, I will be dd this later, I think some of my IL's come on here.
Background: My 18 month old niece is in the hospital with bronchiolitis (sp?). She'll be out in the next day or so, but dh and I went and visited her last night. I hadn't told any of my family that she was sick (honestly, it never came up in conversation). Last night my dh (who just discovered the places feature on facebook) "checked in" him and I at the local children's hospital (it basically just shows up as person A and person B are at Random city's Children's Hospital). My sister, who is always teasing us about when we are going to have kids, immediately responded, "Congratulations! When is the impending family addition due?!" She was clearly joking, but then dh's other sister (not the mom to our niece, his other sister) responded chewing my sister out, saying that her poor niece is in the hospital, yada, yada, yada. I found this ironic since SIL hasn't even visited niece in the hospital.
So dh sent a pretty strongly worded message to his sister, who hasn't responded, and I'm just shaking my head. On the one hand considering the circumstances what my sister said was borderline inappropriate, however in the context (she said it to dh and I, who knew exactly what she was saying and laughed, plus she doesn't even know our niece). We've had a lot of problems with SIL because she's very dramatic about everything, ugh... it's just frustrating. Thank God the holidays are over, too much family time drives me batty.
Re: My Sister vs. My SIL
Why did your husband have to announce on Facebook that you guys were at the hospital anyway? Why would anyone on your Facebook page even care about that? (If they are close enough to your SIL and niece to know that the niece is sick, then I assume they'd already know that Niece is in the hospital and they don't need to read about your trip to see her on Facebook.)
SIL overreacted at your sister's comment, which clearly wasn't intended to insult your SIL or your niece, but if (a) she's stressed out about her daughter being sick, and (b) you know she's a drama queen anyway, your husband shouldn't have responded to her ridiculous rant. Over an e-mail/text, no less. Issues should be discussed in person. Things can easily get misconstrued over the Internet and texts.
Lesson learned - lay off the social media.
And, if your husband insists on going back and forth with his sister like a pair of immature children, make sure that YOU stay out of it.
Sara, Friend?
glove slap. I don't take crap.
If people in my life started a "fight" on FB, I would delete my post/update.
Then I would ignore the drama llama.
I read it as the SIL who is NOT the mother of the child and did not even bother to visit the niece getting her panties in a bunch and over reacting.
Frankly, telling people where you are on Facebook is an invitation for someone to rob you while you are away from home. Your DH handled his sister and I'm sure your sister felt bad after finding out the real reason for visit. Don't feed the drama.
What is it with people and the constant drama on Facebook? UGH!
Your sister and SIL were both wrong. And your DH is wrong for checking into facebook when he is visiting a sick niece. It seems weird for your sister to joke about you being in the hospital without knowing why you were in there. And for your and DH, to laugh when you are going to visit a sick child.....It seems inappropiate. It was not a private joke between the three of you. It was on FB.
I at least understand why your SIL would correct your sister. I think you are making your SIL more wrong because obviously you do not like her. I am sure she cares about her niece even though she was not able to visit.
She was able to visit, she chose not to. MIL was taking my other BIL and SIL (both very young) and my other SIL didn't go because a good tv show was on. When DH "checked in" to facebook it was before we were in the room, we weren't sitting in there on our phones. If my SIL wants to "correct" her (though not sure one what, making an inappropriate joke? Not her place) then fine, but she called her all sorts of names that are completely unacceptable. Do you really think we were laughing at a sick child? Can you really not see the difference? My sister made a joke, having nothing to do with my niece whom she doesn't even know, and we both rolled our eyes and giggled. My response, when we left the hospital, was going to be, "you wish. Actually insert niece's name is sick with bronchiolitis." Then my sister would have given the normal apologies, etc... Seriously, you are allowed to laugh in the vicinity of the hospital, you know that right?
My dh shouldn't have checked in places, that's his thing. My sister made an joke at a bad time. My SIL verbally chewed out my sister for no reason. Also, she didn't just not go... she never called my SIL (the mother of the child) either.
Exactly! Might as well just write, "Hey, I won't be home for the next several hours. This would be a great opportunity to steal my TV."
Many children's hospitals also include Maternity floors and then the nurserys for the babies- so that babies and moms are in the same place. So, if you needed any type of prenatal testing done, it would be at the Children's Hospital, along with the actual delivery. There are lots of pregnant women in the Children's hospital I work at.
Poorly thought out joke on your sister's part, worse overreaction by your SIL, and the worst offender is your husband for even posting that. I hate those apps where you "check in" to the location you entered, like others said, it's an open invite to rob your house.
But if your husband insists on using that app, then he needs to learn more discretion in the appropriate time and place to use it. Hospitals, doctor's offices, anything that could potentially set off an "emergency" red flag, should be a big no-no... if not for your own privacy, then for the privacy of those you're going to visit.