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Brookles
You're welcome!
My best advice is to take things slowly and at your own pace. Do what's right for you. People may tell you oh you need to get out. Well if you want to stay in with movies and ice cream, do it. You'll have more time than you want for self-analysis and evaluating how your life ended up like this and what you want for yourself. I'm trying to use that wisely.
I think the hardest parts (aside from just the emotional hell -- and oh the absolutely horrible beginning part where you have to tell people and receive sympathy -- it was very hard to move on at that point) are dealing with being alone at times - sometimes its nice, sometimes its not. I love having my space back and not dreading going home, not being where its so uncomfortable, but I miss having someone to do things with as a couple, and its hard to just jump right back into dating and relationships. I'd like to, but its just weird, so I'm not rushing it. That, and just accepting the whole path you've been on in life has been derailed and you have to make a new one.
I rambled so much I hope that made sense!
I can't believe its been almost a year.
Re: Brookles
Thanks, Alisha. I was blindsighted by this whole thing and really have no clue what I'm getting myself into--so I very much appreciate your information.
Mad props to you for being strong--it sounds like you've got your head on straight and are getting through it quite nicely.
That, and just accepting the whole path you've been on in life has been derailed and you have to make a new one.
You described perfectly what I'm struggling with right now (I mean, besides the betrayal, etc
), and I know it'll just take some adjustment.
I am very much looking forward to his leaving at the end of the month so I can pick up the pieces... right now we're just too in limbo. Sigh. Never thought I'd end up at this point in life--you? Guess I'll have to get used to it.