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Gina, Mel, Jessica.... other working moms
Help! Please reassure me that Lucie will be okay when she isn't with me in the day. I am dreading this. I have so many horrible feelings. I'm afraid that she'll either hate being there and cry all day as she's done that when I've left her with Arek or she'll love her caregiver more than me which will break my heart. I want her to be happy but still be excited to see me at the end of the day.
I'm afraid she'll get attached to the bottle then won't breastfeed from me. I'm afraid I won't be able to pump enough milk for her...
I just have all these horrible feelings and worries and I know that you all still hate leaving your babies so there's probably nothing you can say to make me feel better!!!
Re: Gina, Mel, Jessica.... other working moms
Relax! You both will be fine! How much longer do you have until you go back to work? I suggest doing a trial day at day care before you go back. That will give you, Lucie, and day care all time to adjust, and if day care needs anything, you will be available.
I'm a freak and actually looked forward to going back to work, so my advice may be different than others. Chase had a rough couple of days adjusting to being in a new place. He wouldn't nap, didn't eat as much, and had bad gas for a few days, but it went away. Now, he laughs and smiles when he sees Donna (our sitter). John drops him off in the morning, and I pick him up after work. He is always excited to see me, which makes me feel better.
About bottles and breastfeeding...how often does Lucie get a bottle now? We started giving him bottles during the day while I was still at home to get him used to it. He has had no problem switching back and forth. Some nights he would cluster feed, but I think that may have been because he wasn't eating as much at once when he nurses versus when he has a bottle.
I don't know what to tell you to feel better about leaving Lucie. For me, being back at work made me appreciate Chase more and enjoy my time with him more. John works nights (4pm until midnight) so Chase and I get a lot of bonding time. On nights when John is home, I still do feedings and bed time to keep Chase in a routine. Sometimes, you just have to look at it as trial and error, but it will all work out.
(Sorry for the novel...I am in full English teacher mode right now)
She and you will be fine. I will not lie, in the beginning is rough. And not liking my job made it much harder. But I LOVE the daycare she goes to, and I know that they love her. A few of them were at her birthday party on Sunday.
I know she is better off going. She gets interaction with other kids and has a ball!
Emmy had no problem adjusting but I am finding that she is a really easy baby and doesnt really have a problem adjusting to new situations.
I can't speak for the breastfeeding/bottles, since I formula fed.
And there is no way that your child will love the caregiver anymore than you! Emmy makes a bee line for me when I go to pick her up, which is the greatest feeling in the world.
Once you settle into a routine, you both will do great!
Baby #2 - D&E - 10/1/10 @ 19w2d - thanatophoric dysplasia confirmed.
Charlotte Lillian will be forever in our hearts.
Baby #3 - Little Bean - natural miscarriage - 1/17/11 @ 5w5d
Thanks girls. Jessica - I go back Feb 1, so 3 1/2 more weeks. We're giving her a bottle about once a day now, sometimes every other day and in the morning. How often do you pump to keep up with Chase or do you formula feed him in the day?
I was deciding between daycares - the licensed one and my friend. While going with my friend has it's issues that I don't have at a licensed daycare, I had to go with my gut and pick her. Thankfully we have only met each other a handful of times, so it's not like we're really close so if something were to happen it would turn things sour and we've already discussed making sure we have open lines of communication and that if it didn't work out, it wouldn't affect our friendship. I feel better knowing she's with her - she's got the interaction of another kid but not too much going on and I think she'll be given more love and attention. She needs to learn to be independent but I think that will still happen.
I cried and cried all last night. She was just so cute yesterday, I can't bear the thought of leaving her.