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t2mofok
About MIL: LOL T2--See, my problem was I was the "middle woman" between DH and his mom. She would say things to me about DH or other things and I would disagree or stand up for DH and then it would turn into this BIG HUGE thing. She's very manipulative and can be pretty mean. I would try to be respectful, but it's really hard when someone is saying things that aren't true and when you tell them that they aren't true then they call you names and hang up. After dealing with this for several years and it getting worse and worse, I let him start taking her calls, etc. Two weeks after I did that, he had to ask her to leave our house one day because of the comments she was making (in front of my stepson no less). It's been a real weight off my shoulders to have him handling her remarks. She was calling me every day, several times a day to complain about something or the other, now she only calls me maybe once a week. I think one of my ulcers has healed, lol. Anyhoo, sorry so long, just wanted to share!
Re: t2mofok
Thats how my MIL is.. she always plays the martyr and makes people think that everyone is so mean to her... Once people see the REAL side of her and how mean and vindictive she can be the slowly understand that you have to stand up for yourself and put an end to it at some point or she will Walk all over you.
She used to do that with my DH and tell me stuff to try to get my mad, little did she know that he's an open book and he shares everything with me.. sometimes, things that I don't even want to know about or care about.
The sad thing is that all of my family is very close and it sorta hurts me when people tell me how they are doing things with the MIL or the mom and MIL and I'm thinking I dread doing almost anything with her because it always ends in drama.
My family is really close too, so I just figured that with DH's family it would be that way too. My mom has even tried with her, she just can't handle the backstabbiness. MIL is realizing that I'm not a doormat, that's for sure!
Yep, she tried to do that to us too, make us look like we were the jerks, but her family (for the most part) has her number and she learned quickly from my mom that she should never talk bad about me to her, lol.
One time (while I was in the process of moving here), she even called me to tell me something she "really thought I should know". She told me that DH had lunch with one of his ex-girlfriends. (Mind you, it's an ex from high school that he dated for two months and he was best friends with her brother, that I've personally spoke to on the phone, etc.). Little did she know that I already knew they were going out to lunch, the ex, the brother and my DH. She tried to make it seem like it was all behind my back, DH taking his ex to lunch. Geesh.
Wow you must be as bored as me tonight and I think we may become friends
haha 
Yep, that's how my mom was. She was like Tara you can't be so mean to her and I said you have to or she will walk all over you. She now realizes how she is and can only take so much of her. Like I said, it's sad when I say lets invite everyone over for dinner and then we are like nahhh because I don't feel like dealing with her.
You should have acted like you didn't know and been like that's it and made a huge deal and see what she would have done. Sometimes I want to do that just to see how she will react then.
I swear she wants both her sons to be single so she can have them all to herself. I wondered my my SIL hated her so much and now I see why. I try not to hate anyone but she's pretty bad! Who has a son diagnosed with cancer and says that it's too far to drive 30 miles to visit him in the hospital when you don't work or do anything. UGGHH!! I don't know if this is helping or just making me angry again. LOL
Either way, thanks for the vent and like I said I think we may become friends
I ended up zonking out last night, sorry about that!
I think my MIL wants my DH to be single too. :-) She's single (divorced from DH's dad long ago) and so resentful of DH doing things for me it seems. She wanted DH to put together a bookcase one week, it was Tuesday, he said he'd be over on the weekend. We had a piece of furniture delivered Wednesday and DH put it together that night. She threw a fit..."Oh, you don't have time for your own mother. I see what's important."...and on and on. Um hello? It's a piece of furniture for his own house, delivered to his door. He lives here. Of course he's going to put it together first. She does the same thing with home improvements. We painted our living room and she wants her bottom floor painted. She threw a fit that we didn't paint her but could paint ours. She has to pay for a painter now, etc. Mind you, her living room and foyer are one of those open two story deals, so unless you have scaffolding/extention ladder there's no way a "normal" person can do it.
It sounds like we have MIL issues, lol! That's horrible about your MIL not visiting her son! It's amazing...they want everyone to wait on them hand and foot but can't be bothered with anyone else.
I think we could be friends too! :-) Are you coming to the GTG this month?
Maybe we should send out MIL's out together to complain to each other about how life is so terrible. LOL
I'm not sure about the GTG.... I just started coming back around on the board and then noticed it started getting a bit active so stuck around hoping for that. I will have to check if there is a post relating to the GTG, when and where.
Most of my friends either have kids or are single and still into the bar scene and sometimes even the married ones like the bar scene a little too much also so it would be great to make some new friends and meet some new people!
We should get them together, lol!
The GTG is going to be January 22nd at 1:00 pm at El Rodeo in York. I'm coming over from Camp Hill. :-) I figure we'll probably do a roll call soon, see who's coming. I'm excited, everyone on here seems nice!
It seems like a lot of us are in the same boat. I'm not from here, work from home, so I really haven't met anyone besides DH's friends. That's my problem too, bar scene or friends have kiddos and I can't do a kiddo play date, I have no kiddo to bring! (Maybe in the next year or two I will) :-)
Great! I will have to check with DH just to make sure we don't have plans but I don't think we do. We were supposed to go to VA but don't think we are anymore. It would be great to meet everyone!!