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Not Quite Sure What to Think
So I just learned via FB that BIL and his gf are now engaged. Apparently, they got engaged over the weekend, and no one bothered to pick up the phone to call B and I. BIL is B's stepbrother J who is a few years younger than me. J's mom and B's dad got married about 12 years ago, and they have done a pretty pathetic job of making everyone part of one family. When B and I got engaged, we made the decision that we were going to treat J and his sister L as part of our family, and invite them to be a part of our lives (family dinners, hang out, etc). We have done our best, but it's been really hard given that J and L rarely reciprocate the invitations. So basically, finding out about J's engagement via FB is fairly par for the course, but needless to say, I find it incredibly rude and tacky. At the very least FIL should have picked up the phone and told us. I should also mention that no one bothered to call B's sister to tell her either.
Re: Not Quite Sure What to Think
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It's sucky, but I agree with kaesha that you might just have to come to terms with the fact they don't want to be as close to you guys as you may have thought. Funny you should mention this, because my brother got married over the weekend and didn't want to tell anyone. If you're scared to tell people, especially close family, that you got married, do you really think it was the best idea?
Did BIL tell anyone via phone? I wouldn't take it too personally if it was just the way they intended on doing a grand announcement to everyone at the same time. Sometimes it's just easier in a big family.
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