Bachelorette Party

april17 · January 2011

Ok, I must be out of the loop on these things. I probably haven't been to a bachelorette party since I got married which was almost 7 years ago. However I received an invitation to a friends bachelorette party and the invite says it's $60 per person. Holy crap! I wasn't expecting that. It appears that they are having a VIP room, so I assume we all have to chip in to cover the cost of it. NOTE: I am not part of the bridal party, just an invited guest.

I didn't know I was going to have to fork out $60 for this. There isn't any way that I can skip it, so I guess I'm going to pay the money. Am I wrong in my thinking that this seems expensive? Or is this what people do these days? Maybe I am just an old stick in the mud. That's what H always tells me!

MrsChelseaP09 · January 2011

I chose not to go to a B-party once because I was TOLD last minute that I had to fork up X amount of dollars (by last minute, I mean the night before). Personally, I think the bridal party is responsible for the costs of the event.... they are the ones who planned it.

StingShark425 · January 2011

WOW. I've only ever been to bachelorette parties for family, and myself. They were all very low key though. I don't know that I would want to pay that much. It's one thing if its for a wknd away, but for the night out? I don't think so.

Aidens__mommy · January 2011

MrsChelseaP09:
I chose not to go to a B-party once because I was TOLD last minute that I had to fork up X amount of dollars (by last minute, I mean the night before). Personally, I think the bridal party is responsible for the costs of the event.... they are the ones who planned it.

ditto! I did the same thing! I was told that I had to pay about $60 to help pay for a room at the hard rock plus pay for my own drinks when we would go down stairs. I didn't have the money so I didn't go. I think the bridal party should pay for things like that.

For mine, we had a joint "party" at splitsville and everyone did pay for their own food and drinks but no one was required to pay x amount of money.

jennifer80808 · January 2011

That's ridiculous! The only thing I've ever paid for a Bachelorette party was for my own dinner/drinks and chipped in to buy the bride's drinks, etc., UNLESS I was part of the bridal party and we all agreed to pay X amount for something special (like a hotel room). The only time I would expect to pay that much would be for a weekend away.

april17 · January 2011

The $60 will cover the cost of our drinks, but if I try to drink $60 worth, I will be so hung over the next day, plus H will have to drop me off and pick me up as I will be too drunk to drive. H told me to take a cab, but the cab fare from the party to our house would probably be $20-$30, so either I drive myself and don't drink much or H has to drop me off and pick me up which is kind of lame too.

UGH! I am so unhappy about this as it's a close friend and I really want to be there for her, but I am not real happy about having to pay money to attend her party. Guess I will be skimping on the bridal shower and/or wedding gift to make up for what I am spending on the B-party.

I'm just glad I'm not the only one who thinks this is crazy. This is the second time I have been invited to something like this, but last time was years ago and it wasn't as close of a friend, so I skipped it because I didn't want to pay the "cover charge".

Anyway, thanks for letting me vent!

Loskadoodle · January 2011

I had mine on a party boat type thing. It was $30 per person but included drinks. Everyone got an invite with the details, so they knew about it prior. I would not have been upset if people couldnt come because of this, but I would not have expected my bridal party to pay for everyone!

MrsChelseaP09 · January 2011

Loskadoodle:
I had mine on a party boat type thing. It was $30 per person but included drinks. Everyone got an invite with the details, so they knew about it prior. I would not have been upset if people couldnt come because of this, but I would not have expected my bridal party to pay for everyone!

That is a reasonable scenario and not too much money to ask for an evening out and they had plenty of notice prior to the event. But I feel, to choose to have a private room at a bar/club should be the responsibility of the bridal party. In my case, I had agreed to go to a specific location for the party and then last minute and told me I had to pay X amount of dollars, that I would rather spend on a VERY nice wedding gift.

Ryan and Lance · January 2011

$30 pp is very reasonable if it includes drinks. I agree that the bridal party should not be responsible for everyone. The BP has to pay enough throughout it all (dress, shoes, bridal shower, etc etc), it is crazy to ask them to cover other people's expenses.

I think that it is fine to ask the people that are attending to pay something. It is her night, and if what she wants to do would cost a little more, that is her decision. However, the bride needs to realize that if she does that some people may not be able to go.

Mine was in Orlando. We drove up in the morning, shopped all day, went back to the hotel, got ready, went to dinner, then went out. The plan was to hang out at the pool the next day, but we were all too hung over. LoL My friends all paid to split the hotel room (we got one hotel, it had three bedrooms). But my friends knew months in advance. I know that if anyone couldn't come due to money issues they would have talked to me and we would have worked something out. I also only invited close friends. It is different to expect people you aren't super close with to spend a lot of money.

Loskadoodle:
I had mine on a party boat type thing. It was $30 per person but included drinks. Everyone got an invite with the details, so they knew about it prior. I would not have been upset if people couldnt come because of this, but I would not have expected my bridal party to pay for everyone!

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