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Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
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Thank you.
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What do you & DH do together
So DH & I have realized that we don't really do anything together anymore. Our lives revolve around school, kids, work & then our solo hobbies & activities. We need some ideas of things we can do as a pair instead of independently in the same room. We have come up with making a sourdough starter and painting our bedroom (over some lovely permanent artwork on the wall by DD). Nothing to exiciting.
We have the limitation of having the kids at home, so we can't just pop out & take a class together or go dancing or something like that. So I want to hear what you do together. Any & all suggestions are appreciated! Thanks.
Re: What do you & DH do together
we do fantasty football and occasionaly attend car shows together (dd isn't too young to know the difference b/t a fastback 'eleanor' mustang and a shelby cobra mustang :P)
football is a big part of what we do together - b/t the Super Bowl in Feb and the NFL Draft in April .. it's a drought in our house.
We are sort of in the same boat ... not a lot of intersecting hobbies. One thing we started doing is going to bed together. Even though DH stays up later than I do watching TV, it's been good for us to end the day together.
Since one of DH's goals after moving to WA is to start hunting again, we are going to try going to the shooting range together. I have never fired a gun in my life (nor wanted to), but since we will have a couple around the house now, we both think it's best if I know how to use them. So that will be something.
We also like going to the movies together when we can. And we have some TV shows that we watch together. I love how much DH loves "True Blood." But ... I wish we could be one of those couples who goes to book club together, or signs up for his & her cooking classes or something!
What about sharing a book together? You could even just have one copy and you could read to each other from it at night when you go to bed.
Or maybe you can find a show to watch together (DVR it if you don't have time to watch it consistently). DH and I have a few shows we do this with.
Or find ways to share chores. For instance, cook meals or garden together.
Is there any way of dropping the kids off with family/a sitter one night a week for a "date night"? I have some friends with kids that did this, and found it really rekindled their relationship. Sometimes they have had to force themselves to do it, but they make it a priority. You can use it as an opportunity to explore new things together.
You could also exercise together. Take up biking, running, walking, etc. together. Or learn to play a sport together (tennis, perhaps?)
DH and I have also talked about learning a new language together. We've been thinking about learning sign language (something that would very useful for his career), so that we can still "talk" to each other in situations where we can't talk out loud.
Work on crossword puzzles or other games together. DH and I like to make friendly competitions out of puzzles/brain teasers, and see who can figure out the most and/or finish first.
We will watch certain TV shows only when together. But when we "unplug", we like to do crosswords too. Or play board/card games.
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One thing that we do together is I will sit in DH reloading room (he reloads his own ammo for competitions) and I will knit or do some sort of crafty project. Even though we are both "doing" something different, we can sit and chat while we work. Some of our best conversations happen this way.
What about going for drives and exploring new places? You could take DD with you guys and do fun things like go to the snow, local fairs etc.
Projects around the house can also be good bonding time (for some!).
We do sports together, namely volleyball for us but it doesn't sound like that would work for you two. At-home things we do are cooking, curling up on the couch with a movie, playing video games. But we also do some of the "independent but in the same room" things you described too, like I'll knit/crochet while he plays a solo video game.
We also try to get together with friends for dinner or some other socializing.
Our newest thing is going to the drive in movies - we make popcorn and hot cocoa in a thermos, get some candy, and then hit the taco bell drive through. C falls asleep on the way or sitting in her carseat in the dark and we have a fun evening in the car.
We'll also go for drives and explore a new area, work in the yard together, make a fun new recipe...
DH and I literally do everything together. Part of it is because DH doesn't really have any friends out here so he's lonely and needs to spend time with someone, and part of it is because we don't have money to go out and do stuff all the time so it's how we spend time together outside of the house. So we foodshop, run errands, etc.
When the weather is nice we also take walks when he gets home from work. And we watch a lot of movies (even if it's just like 30 minutes before bed) to get some snuggle on.
When we actually do have a date, we usually pick a town and go and just walk around for awhile to pick a restaurant and then when we've seen everything go back and eat. Sometimes if it's not too late we'll go into shops that are still open and just peruse and chit chat. We're really into walking and experiencing our surroundings, so we'll pretty much go anywhere just to check out the area and walk. Nature preserves, different areas in the city, museums, gardens, etc.
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This sounds so awesome. Why did they have to get rid of all the drive-ins around me?!
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