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Crazy girl on family matters
There is this girl on Family Matters board who is upset that her parents didn't get her a card or money for her wedding. Now keep in mind that her parents paid for 1/2 of her 10k wedding. You guys have to go read it before she dd's.
Re: Crazy girl on family matters
How old is that girl?
Well, these are my thoughts: If they told her they were giving her cash as a wedding gift and the bride was counting on the cash, I totally understand why she is a tad annoyed. If her parents hadn't planned on giving her anything at all, they should have said "we just contributed $5k to YOUR wedding, THAT is your gift."
It is kind of like me complaining about my husband's parents renegging on his law school on TIP and the girls jumping all over me. First off, it is not a kid's right to have a free education. But if when your kid goes to law school and you tell him you are going to CONTINUE TO PAY FOR IT even after he/she gets married, and then change your mind a year later and stick your kid with $30k of SL debt because you "changed your mind" - that's shitty. Are you following me here?
In conclusion, her post is beebeeish, she is a beebee, but her parents DID say they were going to give her cash. If they were expecting to use that cash on their honeymoon, I can see why they are bumfuzzled. My guess is that they never intended on giving them anything but didn't want to tell her that which is shitty too.
I agree that it sucks that her parents said they were going to give her something and then didn't. But the MINUTE my parents said they were having a hard time financially I would automatically back the hell off of asking about a gift. She's still thinking about asking them for the gift--you don't ASK for a gift!
And stripes, the law school thing is totally understandable. I can see being crushed at receiving the 30k bill when you weren't expecting it. That's a big blow. But if his parents said "we're going to buy you new living room furniture for your wedding gift", and then said they were having a hard time financially right now and couldn't afford to do it...you wouldn't even think to ask them to get you something after that. Or at least I wouldn't.
I got from the post they were trying to recover from the cost of the wedding, not that they are having a "hard time financially."
I would NEVER confront my parents about something like this, FYI.