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Parenting Fail
M and I were having great conversation on the way to school this morning. Something came up about him wanting to eat at a restaurant where they only speak Spanish, so I asked him if he meant here or in Peru. He said both. When I asked him if he wanted to visit Peru, he said emphatically (as he always does), "No!" He said he didn't know why he didn't want to, and then changed the subject.
I thought this was as good a time as any, and I decided to ask him if he wanted a sibling. This is how the conversation went:
Me: Do you want a brother or sister?
M {wasting no time to think about it}: A brother.
Me: Yeah?
M: Yes!
Me: Why?
M: I don't know.
Me: To play with?
M: Yes.
Me: And to love?
M: Yes. {getting excited} And to PLAY with!
Me: That's good to know. {after a while} Maybe someday....
M: Let's go! {obviously thinking hard} Uh, I don't know.... Where do you go to by them?
I cracked up, thinking this was really funny...until it hit me...M thinks we bought him!
We talked about it, and he told me he really did think we bought him. He told me that he thought he is worth $100 (which, since he has no concept of money, is a HUGE amount in his mind). I did my best to explain that we did NOT buy him, that there wasn't enough money in the world to buy him, if you could do that sort of thing, but you can't--people are NOT for sale. Not wanting him to think that he wasn't worth anything, though, I told him (probably inadvisedly, but I was so off-guard) that we spent a lot of money to prove that we are good people so that he could come live with us, but we did NOT buy him. We talked about it for a while, but I'm pretty sure he didn't buy what I was telling him.
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Husbands should be like Kleenex: Soft, strong, and disposable.
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Sorry, Captain, I know it's serious, but i agree with Fallin that this will be really funny one day.
I don't really see it as a fail; I just wished we had talked about it all along. I guess I just figured he was oblivious to everything we went through to get him, or any money exchanging hands, and I was okay leaving it that way. At least for now. With all the other things we have to address, this just didn't seem important to try to discuss, especially when we still had language difficulties.
I guess we just have a lot more conversations about adoption in the future. The good thing is that if we do adopt again, he'll see a lot more of how it works. but then...how would we explain it to the second kid?
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No worries. Like I said, I cracked up. I totally see the humor. I just also have to figure out how to explain it to him.
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My parents always told me they bought me at a garage sale. It was all done in good humor.
Adoption is certainly a hard concept to grasp, but in the end, I'm sure they will understand that whatever the process, it was all done out of love.
It's true. You can buy me for a tropical vacation. You can buy Groomz for a single Vicki cookie.
"That chick wins at Penises, for sure." -- Fenton
To give you some perspective, THIS is a parenting fail.
You seem to be doing a great job with what is bound to be a confusing situation for M.
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