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Vent about my SIL...
First, I want to say that I know this is not my battle to fight. I just need to vent for a minute.
My brother and his wife, K, have been married for almost 11 years. They have 4 kids, and we generally we all get along great. They've known eachother since kindergarten, so she's been a part of our lives for most of my life.
So, I have a cousin, J, who met K's brother the weekend of my wedding, and they instantly hit it off. They started dating, and got serious very quickly. Within a year of dating, they were talking marriage already.
Well, I don't know the details, because frankly it's none of my business, but the broke up. Yes, from what I heard, J didn't handle it in the most mature way she could've, but that's between the two of them and no one else.
Well, fast forward to Christmas weekend. brother and K come up to visit, and we're sitting in my aunt's kitchen talking, just the girls. Somebody mentions how they wish J and her parents could've come up for the holiday, and K goes ballistic. I kid you not, she ranted for 20 minutes about J and the break up with her brother. And the part that annoyed me the most was she kept using the line, "I'm sorry. I know she's your family, but I just can't believe what she did." Well then quit talking about her badly in front of us! Go vent to your family, because, and I'm sorry, but J is my family, and I'm going to take her side.
I didn't say anything to SIL, but man was I mad. Not really looking for advice or anything. Just a vent...
Re: Vent about my SIL...
Next time she starts in say calmly....
"I don't care how Sorry you are... I am not going to listen to you talk bad about my cousin.... I don't talk bad about your brother... what happened between them is between them.... Not between you and me.... So I don't want to talk about it or hear about it."
Sara, Friend?
glove slap. I don't take crap.
Thanks for the great advice. We don't see them very often (we live in PA and they live in TX), but next time, I'm going to try to remember that. I really wanted to say something like that this time, but I knew I was to caught up in the moment and didn't want to say the wrong thing.
They started dating, and got serious very quickly. Within a year of dating, they were talking marriage already.
Talking about marriage after a year of dating isn't that quick. H & I were talking marriage after dating for 6 months.
Yes, you're right. Sorry to imply that you can't talk marriage that soon, because I know people do and it works for some couples.