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Unpopular opinions/confessions
I didn't get around to posting yesterday...it's been a long week for me, emotionally, mentally, and physically.
I don't have any unpopular opinions I can think of, but here are some confessions:
1. Last night, I bought a box of wine (the good kind, not Franzia) and managed to poke a hole in the bag. I thought I got it fixed but when I went back in the kitchen, it was all over the counter, in a drawer (white paint, no less...have to prime and paint that now) and the floor. I got that cleaned up, and H was being a jerk about trying to fix the bag, saying I was slow, etc. I said we would just put it in a pitcher. I opened the pantry, and I had to reach a bit, catching my boob in the spice rack. The spice rack fell off the wall and into my hand. There was a large container of peppercorns in it. It fell on the floor, spraying peppercorns alllllll over the kitchen floor. I kicked H out of the kitchen at that point.
2. Tuesday night, at an honor band, I got the times screwed up and one of my kids missed his portion of the concert. 2 of my students, and their parents (brothers and their mom and dad) saw me cry because I was so angry with myself and just knew the kid would hate me forever (I know you're not supposed to have favorites, but this kid is the last kid that would deserve anything like this, and I screwed him over. If I were to have a son, I would want him to be very much like this kid). The parents and children were so understanding, and able to turn the other cheek and it made me feel even worse because I wouldn't have been able to do that.
Re: Unpopular opinions/confessions
Here my confession:
Not flame worthy or anything. We have a song we sing with M while she washes her hands (I got it off of Nick Jr. so fellow moms you may have heard it) anyways I have caught myself singing it in my head while I wash my own hands now.
I also secrectly like watching Olivia and Yo Gabba Gabba with M. Especially Yo Gabba Gabba becuase we can get up and dance and act silly. Really fun!
I'm kinda annoyed by my coworkers. We've been adding new students all week, and I think they think it's some sort of competition to see who can get the most. And I think they were annoyed at me yesterday because I didn't answer any calls until the afternoon because I had 50 new applications to process, enter and print letters for...and I think I would've gotten a little grief about it if my boss hadn't told them to not let me answer phones so I could finally get caught up. I can only imagine how summer enrollment will be. Sigh.
H hasn't been calling me until after 10pm my time, and I'm usually asleep or on my way to sleep at that point. We haven't had a convo that's lasted more than five minutes all week, and it's kinda bugging me. Doesn't help I had a dream last night he's been cheating on me. Suck.
Today was my last day at my job (everyone rejoice! how long have I wanted this?). Anyway, there's one report that is technically due next week that I said I would try to get done... and I totally didn't, and if I am really honest with myself, deep down I never planned on doing it either. And don't feel the slightest bit bad about it.
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I think if you give someone a gift, no matter how large or small, you should take the time to write the person a thank you note. I'm done with Christmas gift thank yous...ARE YOU?
I get annoyed that I am expected to buy a shower gift and a bachelorette party gift for someone that I don't hang out with much, at all. I am excited that I got invited and am going to attend, but I really think I was just a way to stretch some gifts. Sigh.
A friend of ours that we know was hurt very badly in a car accident. I feel awful for her, her family and her children. I offered to take their kids for them because her in-laws crapped out on them for overnight stays. The husband said no, and I secretly am extraordinarily relieved, because I really didn't want to take that on. I would have done it, but I would have been miserable the entire time. It makes me feel like a shitty person.
Honestly, I think thank you notes are kind of silly and a waste of paper. If I've given someone a verbal "thank you" (or via email or whatever), I see no reason to also write them a note. It just seems very redundant to me.
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OMG! It was WWIII at our house when I asked the boy to write thank you notes for his presents. After discussing it for an hour, and then watching him pout for another, I started packing up his presents so they could be returned. I don't give a rats ass if you've never had to write notes before, my house my rules. My rules say you tell people how appreciative you are. You should have seen the complete 180 turn around when the iPod went back into the box. I made him personalize each one too.
OMG! It was WWIII at our house when I asked the boy to write thank you notes for his presents. After discussing it for an hour, and then watching him pout for another, I started packing up his presents so they could be returned. I don't give a rats ass if you've never had to write notes before, my house my rules. My rules say you tell people how appreciative you are. You should have seen the complete 180 turn around when the iPod went back into the box. I made him personalize each one too.
I think it's great you made the boy write them. It is showing him that whenever people buy you something with their hard earned money, it is proper etiquette to show the person that you appreciate the time they took to pick something out specifically for you. People get so excited about gift giving and it brings such joy--why would anyone rain on that parade by not acknowledging that you love the gift and will get a lot of use out of their thoughtfulness?
I have given gifts before too, Copswife, that went completely unacknowledged. It made me wonder if they liked what I got them or if they even received it. I would always ask later on and they'd say "oh, yeah, I got it. Thanks". And it was just kind of like really? I don't expect someone to tell me OH MY GOD THIS IS THE BEST GIFT SINCE GIRL SCOUT COOKIES, but it would be nice to know that the gift made them happy. I love giving and making others happy--and it's nice (whether it's a thank you card OR an e-mail) to be told if they're enjoying the gift and getting good use out of it.
If you tell me thanks when you get it--wonderful. But I'm still going to write my mom and dad a thank you note for the UGGS they bought me for Christmas to let them know how much I enjoyed being comfortable with the cold weather and how I went and bought some gray tights and a black sweater to go with the UGGS...I'm still going to tell my grandparents that I can't believe how amazing my dining room looks after putting the chairs they bought me in there--and I am so grateful that they were so generous to help me complete the decorating in my home. I'm still going to write my sister a thank you note and let her know how cute Bentley looks in his t-shirt that she bought him for Christmas, and I'll probably e-mail a picture of him in it to her as well. They love to know they spent their hard earned money on someone that appreciates and enjoys their efforts.
Well, I'm in the "no, I haven't written my thank-you cards" camp. And I have only received one thank-you, from an octogenarian aunt. I made sure that everyone who gave me a gift was thoroughly thanked at the receipt of the gift, and that they knew I appreciated their thought. They know me well, and that I hardly send cards for anything...I usually just make a phone call for birthdays/holidays, and thank them in person.
While it's nice to receive a thank-you from parents or kids at work, when I don't realize that a thanks is in order, I don't expect them for gifts.